Nishtha Gehija

Someone asked me how can they make money while sitting at home.

Me: Multiple ways. Take courses. Learn a new skill. Freelance. Reach out. Etc.
Towards the end, I also mentioned how they can make money directly by going to Cheggs, Bartleby, etc.

Since then, they pushed me to send them link to those. Also inserted Udemy link. Because if you aren’t growing, why are you expecting to grow your money?

They only wanted how to make money. Understandable. But to learn the art of making money, is the real money.

The tool that will have you have:

• Less screen time
• More awareness time
• Zero confusion time

If you know how to write and do not carry a notebook, is as good as not knowing how to write.

I was watching a video of an interview of Seth Godin with my boss, and man, this man inspires me so much.

He was looking into the video because that would go on the screen, but was also looking into the Zoom screen, to make the conversation real.

He was smiling at a smile-worthy thing my boss said.

And was referring an Indian example, because, of course, we are Indians.

One of the most real human beings. Please do yourself a favour and go follow him. You will not regret.

The truth about good work is that very few people will tell you that you did good work.

However, when you don’t do that good work, the very same people will share it with you.

Not to blame those people. I think we have done it as well, a lot of the times.

So the way out, is to go appreciate people for the good thing they do. Even when it is expected out of them. Gratitude isn’t getting big things. It is about being appreciative of the small things. And that’s superpowerful.

A friend had recently told me that they tell a lot of harmless lies.

For someone like me who takes people’s words as “word” and who herself is a propagator of living an honest life, this was a revelation. Albeit not so happy one.

Nonetheless, I told myself into not giving a damn, as I still wanted to trust that friend. And I did not trust them anyway, with vulnerability.

A couple of days later, I saw them talk to people on honesty. Two different times. In just a gap of less than 10 days. Like for real!

It left me confused. What part of them should I trust? Possible that both are true. Possible that they value honesty but they have to lie a lot. Possible that they do not lie in unimportant matters.

Here is what I reflected on later:

1. Every single one of us has a navigation towards the right values. Even if all our life we have been living against that value, we are always always driven towards the right.
2. Lie, unfortunately, has different definitions for everyone. What may be illegal for someone may be necessary for someone else. Respectfully, I would suggest that this is not true. We all do not have different definitions of lies. We simply have different levels of inner powers to face that lie straight in the face, and do that right thing, anyway.
3. This one comes from my first year room-mate in college. It was my first time away from home, and I used to get affected a lot by all the ups and downs of life, and people. My room-mate, a final year student, jolly, and way more experienced than me, taught me a life mantra: :“Do you have to get married to them? Then why worry?” No! I do not have to get married to that friend. Then why worry? This has been my life mantra since 2009 – when I first went to college, and has so beautifully saved me from the torment of problems.

Above all, I am often reminded of something my father once told me:

Just because you are a saint, you think everyone else would be a saint.

The world is filled with people of all kinds. But your world, is going to be the one you are going to be. Go fill it up with the becoming the kind of person you want the world to embody.
And your one face will teach the world how not to have two faces.

At the spiritual class today, there were Janmashtami celebrations.

Of all the great things, one thing that stood out were the two tiny Krishnas and one small Radha:

• They were quietly witnessing the celebrations when others were performing.
• They performed their tasks with utmost finesse.
• They went with the flow, when someone asked them to dance, they also did it, without any fuss.

I wish we never gave up on the childlike attitude!

Not in a way of expressing it explicitly.

Rather in a way of expressing it in a journal. Or taking long walks. Or having therapy. Or writing more (like yours truly). Or taking up a project that you truly want to (by channelising that energy of anger). Or simply by being more present.

Let it go. Because if it is in, it won’t let you be within. And that’s scary.

Yes, you read that right.

You MUST make time to be busy.

Because I have been most productive on the days I have been the busiest.
On days there was nothing to do, I did not get even my rest/recreation/cleaning home done really well.

Too much forces your brain to make space for what’s most important.
Too much free time forces your brain to freeze, which is the least important thing it should ever do.

Busy creates bushes. Free creates frenzy.

May you have the same dedication towards yourself as you have for someone you work.

May you have the same dedication towards your health as you have for someone you take care of.

May you have the same love for yourself as you have towards a kid who didn’t err on purpose.

Dedication towards others is good. If it is preceded by dedication to yourself.

No one has.

You still have to make it.

Because if you don’t make time, time will never make it for you.

Is that the kind of life you want to live?

If you can’t write good, can you write bad?

Writing bad is the start of writing good.
Because it at least gets you to writing.
Which will eventually lead to letting go of all that isn’t serving you.
And ultimately produce something you will be happy to.

Writing bad is the doorway to writing good. Let nothing and no one else let you believe otherwise.

Because they are devoid of inner fulfilment, that comes through increasing your awareness, taking long nature walks, processing life events in a manner that helps you grow, and most importantly, to take care of yourself.

Being with yourself is scary. That’s why most people ignore exactly that. The ones who have that confrontation, we label them as lucky, rich and more powerful.

If you are at peace, you will feel no need to share a meme on a group chat.

Because now, you won’t be watching memes 🙂

You will be enjoying whatever life brings, with a sense of being at ease with who you are, and not getting affected with anything that shakes your core.

Power isn’t what the body and title bring. Power is when you transcend both of them.

In every relationship, some things are negotiables and some are not.

Not showing up once isn’t an issue. Not showing up multiple times definitely is.

However, what happens when we finally come across the non-negotiable?
What if we are betrayed?
What if we come across a huge value clash?
What if we know everything is shaken?

On the face of it, it looks easy to break a relationship. I am talking about professional ones as well.

However, what if everything else is going just right?
What if you can have a difficult conversation and confrontation that they will make it better?
What if you sense the intent that they really care?

It is never a ready-to-make response. You have to think a lot. However, to think that from a place of power, you must always make the wisest decision that you could.

Deciding in ego would lead you to perhaps a lifelong regret. Deciding without self-respect would literally make you swim in regret daily.

To exercise wisdom, is sometimes the biggest wisdom.

Sometimes I wish I was super rich so that I could write all day, and do nothing else.

But you know what, those who do wishful thinking and do not act, their wishes are never fulfilled.

Rather be so good that all your good wishes have no option but to get fulfilled.

Being good > having desires

When people shout it out loud through their conduct that they don’t care about you, do not trust their words that they do. Actions still speak louder than words.

Sometimes people want their motive to be fulfilled by you. Do not mistake that for care.

“Are you over it? Good.”
No, I am not over it. I am learning life lessons from it.
I am over the fact that I expected I could have a conversation with you, without you proving that you were 100% right all through.

Not everything is a small thing. A gentle reminder.

It is not a bad thing if someone hurt you unknowingly.
It IS a bad thing if they don’t care even after you tell them that they hurt you.

The world keeps telling that to us over and over again.

Quicker than we know, your sense of self-worth has gone for a toss.

If it is a big thing to you, it is a big thing.
No matter what anyone else says.

You may learn to process it.
You may learn to live with it.
You may perhaps even learn to let go of it if it happens again.

However, unless you let what is important to you become important for you, you are living someone else’s life.

You don’t deserve that, my friend.

Did not want to go home for the long weekend coming ahead.
Went there just two weeks back.
I have my home here as well, to take care of.
Plus, going to the railway station is not a wonderful experience.
Not to mention, the rich become rich because they keep their expenses in check.
Anyway, having wonderful ways to celebrate over here.

Btw, spoke to Mom. And she is fine.

Turns out, Moms are the best when they are outside of influence of other family members 🙂

You will realise this only when you start reading.

You will start reading only when you stop scrolling.

You will stop scrolling only when you know how powerful you are.

You will realise how powerful you are only when you give yourself the space to be.

And the space to be emerges only when you let go of what you do right now for what you want to be.

I was in school when I was introduced to the movie by my elder sister.
We used to dance to the songs, hum them along, and basically feel joy in watching it.
Especially back then when the only way to watch the movie was when Disney channel decided to telecast it.

Recently, I happened to watch the movie again. All three of them. (The last movie I watched was Gully Boy and I do NOT watch movies, but IDK why I did so. Not a good thing, though.)

Anyway, this is what emerged when I re-watched the trilogy:

Some moments and scenes in the movie reminded me of some exact scenes happening in my own home – my Mom screaming to get things done, or Mom asking to shut the TV (Mom, it is HSM – it doesn’t air daily!) because a relative had arrived, or my sister neglecting my jumping around at some points in the first edition.

It made me think how some things have a narrative attached to them. I have moved on from all of that – not being acknowledged because I was the youngest in family, my movies not being given equal importance as Kyunki Saas Bhi Kabhi Bahu Thi, relatives are always more important, your joy is our joke, and all.

I basically re-lived those moments in my old home – the ones I had no awareness of affecting me so deeply, so much so that I had moved on from them, however, they somewhere still lived within me.

That is why, moving on is so important.

When you stay stuck, you stay stuck.
When you move on, you do move on eventually, so much so that you forget those things altogether (unless of course you do not recollect them).

Move on, baby. You will actually move on.