The mishap is the truth.
You went through a lot of bad stuff – that is the truth.
Fortunately, that’s not the problem.
The problem is, how many times the mishap is repeated inside our head and in our words.
Repetition is what makes the difference. Place is repetition hardly matters. What really matters is the doer and the deed.
The solution, then, is to reduce the frequency of repetition. The method, then, is to be the master of your thoughts. The fortunate thing, then, is that you can control it.