Whether you let people make their decisions or you be the “know it all” imposing your decisions upto people, the important thing is, people will always screw up if they have this programmed in their head.
Surprisingly, when people have the freedom to make their decisions, they operate from the point of least losses and best deals.
Difficult choice is, to let go of your ego and let people decide and execute what is the best for them. You will face unexpectedly positive results and also lessons.
Also remember, kindness is not determined by how stressed out you are. It is a choice. You can be kind even when prophase screwed up. It is your deepest nature.