Take time to recharge.
And get off work daily.
You wouldn’t regret a bit.
Trust me 🙂
Elizabeth Kubler Ross’ popular theory of grief entails 5 stages – denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance.
For most people, some stages happen in overlap.
However, what if we made acceptance a part of our lives?
Here’s how: The spiritual class I go to daily, teach us how to never get angry. You know what happens because of that? My process of grief is: denial, bargain, depression and acceptance.
Quite literally!
You see how that worked?
Because something was not allowed for you, you thrived in the absence of it.
Thus, if the entire role of the process of grief is to go to acceptance, why not make acceptance a part of your lifestyle?
Do not wait for grief. Have acceptance in the smallest things like maid going on a leave when you wanted them to come.
Do not wait for heartbreak. Have acceptance in the smallest rejections from people.
Do not wait for a bad remark from your boss. Have acceptance in the mistakes you made.
Acceptance holds you accountable to yourself. And to the fact that a lot of things in this world drama could not be controlled. Which is an emotion and a thought in our control. Only if we accept it 🙂
Anil is a server at a boutique hotel in Kerela, in Flamingo Marari.
Maybe the lead of the team.
I don’t know.
However, what I do know is he works like a leader.
Listening to customer requirements.
Remembering their priorities.
Remembering what they loved.
Taking care of creating custom orders when the guests demand so.
He does all of it despite knowing that he makes way less than the guests whom he serves.
However, his smile makes him the richest person on earth.
Because he is happy.
Because he is care.
Because he knows that sometimes going big is not about making more money. It is about making it to the blog of a random person on the internet because you left such a huge impact.
Happiness and care >>>
Have that conversation.
Talk it out.
Speak your truth.
Live with honestly.
Work less hard.
Say no often.
Life is beautiful.
If you decide.
Writing is an important art.
Not only for writers. For everyone.
Because there is NO ONE of us who doesn’t write.
Text messages.
Emails.
DMs.
Senti Insta stories.
It’s a tragedy we do not take a moment to work on an art we use DAILY, irrespective of what our profession is.
When to use a short sentence.
To induce impact.
Like I just did.
When to have a longer sentence to take the reader on a journey because writing is communication.
Like I just did.
And human beings suffer from loneliness in the absence of communication.
And in the absence of an improper one as well.
Take the time to write.
And to learn to write.
Just like you took the time to learn to drive.
It didn’t make your profession as a “driver” but it was to learn how to drive. Because you do that daily.
And here we are, writing daily still not learning to write.
No wonder why our communication skills (and relationships) suck.
Write baby, write.
It will only help you.
And even heal you in the process.
The Spotlight Effect says that we think everyone is thinking of us, while in reality, everyone is thinking of themselves.
Here is how I would twist it:
Because we didn’t take the time to think of our own selves, we are now thinking if others are thinking of us!
We want to be cared because we cared of our wants so little.
Is contagious.
You just have to start with yourself.
The world has taught us that we are living in an age of depression.
What if we believed that we are living in an age of peace?
What if we believed that everyone wants us to win?
What if we believed that life is very beautiful if we are beautiful?
Babe, life is beautiful.
Embrace it. Enjoy it. Create it.
On that book
On your dream
On your fitness goal
On your ritual to take a daily evening walk
On your weirdest weirdo thought that you know only you can bring to light.
The biggest thing you will learn to give up in life, is to give up on giving up on the opinions of others.
If you don’t want your boss to call you on a weekend, have a separate phone for personal life.
If you don’t want to make the same mistake every day, change your systems instead of cursing yourself.
If you don’t want to fall in bad relationships over and over again, seek therapy to weed off the problem from the root.
Make the change. It is your life. You own it to yourself.
There is no other way than to write daily.
There is no other way than to show up for practice daily.
There is no other way to feeling peaceful than to meditate daily.
There is no other way to health and fitness than to get your workout, food and sleep in order.
There is no other way to good relationships than to forgive those who don’t even know they made a mistake.
There is no other way to feeling fulfilled than to attending to yourself first.
There is no other way to validation than to spend time with yourself, talking to yourself.
There is no other way to an empty head than to venting out everything on a journal.
There is no other way to success than to have a relentless pursuit of the daily essentials.
Because it is in the mundane that the fun we gain.
If jazzy and snazzy brought results, Warren Buffet, Ratan Tata and your favourite person would not be where you are today.
A colleague in our team resigned from work today.
She stated she isn’t having enough time to pursue her freelancing, along with the work that we offer her.
Fair enough.
Totally respect her sentiment.
And her audacity to speak her truth out.
Very few people would actually do it.
However, on some days I see a lot of myself in her.
I also want to run away from things when they are not working out.
I also want to run away from problematic relationships (both professional and personal) at times.
I also want to run away from everything I am doing to start afresh, with fresh set of perspectives and people.
What we forget, however, is that wherever we go, we take ourselves with us.
You may run away from people.
You may run away from circumstances.
You may also run away from the pressure someone else put you through.
However, how will you ever run away from yourself?
The part of you that does not feel okay with the thing it is running away from.
The habits of people that trigger something in you.
The issues your behaviour exhibits when it comes in contact with something that is unpleasant to you.
This in no way means that you should continue working on and working with what is not working out.
However, what this surely means is when something is not working out in the outer world, there is certainly something within us as well that needs to be fixed. We move on from the toxic people and places however hardly sit around to get rid of our own toxicity as well.
Thus, it is important for us to reflect that in ourselves as well.
Otherwise, we would be like that single person who just moved on from a toxic relationship, only to land themselves into another one – because they did not fix the part of themselves that fell into that toxic relationship in the first place.
I had been struggling with a problem for quite some time now.
Yesterday as I went out with a friend, I forgot that problem for a while.
And then in came to me again.
Which is how it should be.
You gotta deal with your pain.
And resolve your issues.
So that it goes away.
Most of us just try to numb it by doing more things that are external.
We go out. Eat out. Party hard. Post on Instagram.
Basically put as many bandages without healing the wound.
However, not attending to the wound is only going to make it worse.
We may go out into the world, however, if we are not going within our world, we are merely puppets of our own trauma, instead of being masters of our emotions.
But the only person you go to bed with, is you. Not the glitz and glam. Not the insta likes and insta stories. And certainly not the external bandages you choose.
If you don’t deal with pain, it eventually becomes a choice.
Someone responded to me in 10 seconds teaching how to respond to heated messages 2 hours later.
It turns out, people who give wisdom yet not apply it carry wisdom. If we listen to the message, it will make us way more powerful.
That’s it. That’s the blog.
IDK why I wrote this title, lol 🙂
Anyway, I am doing good, hope the same for you.
An FYI, btw: Take care of yourself, everything else shall follow.
- Spend an hour away from the internet – for every hour that you spend on it.
- Keep a note book and a pen next to you – always.
- Good videos heal. And so does silence. Never leave the sight of either.
I came back from my parents’ home today, however, I am missing them today.
It is such a bittersweet emotion.
When at home, there is anger and fights. But there is warmth, family, and love.
What I do want to learn, is to be in the moment, even more.
Whatever that means.
I know someone who has really good intentions for me. They have helped me navigate my biggest issues in this year.
However, quite often, their words become so rude, that I often have to tell myself: But they intend really well!
Today, I chose to address their rude tonality. Because a lot of how they speak was starting to get reflected in my conversations, and multiple people gave me the feedback that I should be kinder.
I don’t know how it would affect our relationship further.
However, I wanted to make it clear to them that I addressed what was uncomfortable.
And that is the first step in showing people how to treat me.
Accepting rudeness once is being kind.
Accepting rudeness every time is being a fool.
It is difficult to sit in the morning and write.
It is difficult to get off Instagram.
It is difficult to do the reps when you wanna have a piece of cake.
Of course, it is difficult.
However, if it were easy, Netflix bingewatchers would be ruling the world today.