You have your loved ones with you.
They are supporting you in your journey.
Accepting you for what you are doing.
Loving you unconditionally.
And that’s beautiful!
However, there needs to be an additional element: Of accepting and appreciating yourself.
Too often when we are in the hustle and grind, we forget to be appreciative to the one person who needs it the most: Ourselves.
And that causes a deep lack that no one could ever be fulfilled.
It’s as important a habit as brushing your teeth. When you are self aware, working on what’s not working, appreciating yourself holds equivalent if not greater importance.
Right now. Starting today.
Nothing will go right in our lives unless,
a. We start appreciating what we have right now.
b. We understand that our positivity has the power to change people.
c. We believe that when people show us who they are, we need to believe them as Maya Angelou said.
For weeks I was struggling with making a new habit. I wanted to set a traffic control of my thoughts, and take one-minute breaks after each hour.
Tried downloading a few apps, none of which functioned.
So I set the alarm in my phone after every hour.
“What’s new with this?” you may ask!
I wanted the sound to be the one I loved and not the usual alarm stuff. However, iPhone doesn’t allow the desi jugad to add external sounds.
So I purchased a sound from the iTunes store and set that as an alarm.
Result? Those one-minute alarms are working wonders!
Here’s the psychological hack: Even though I spent a minuscule amount of Rs. 15 for a tailor-made service, it would make me use it to the fullest.
The magic is not of the amount of money, rather the effort of paying it will make me use it fully. Daily. Every hour.
When you look at your work a month ago and laugh at it, you know you’re growing.
Bonus Point: Also, when you look at another piece of work from a month ago and feel proud seeing it, you know you’re creating epic work.
Is it okay to take yourself seriously?
Or should you be happy and easy-going?
The answer is: you should take yourself seriously and be easy going in the process.
Take your mindset seriously, and be easy going towards the first time mistakes (second timers are the ones you didn’t learn from).
Take your efforts seriously, and easy going towards someone else’s.
You always know when is it the time to be disciplined and when to chill. You just need to decide – which will come from practising serious discipline as well as easy going discipline.
When I had initially learnt to cook, I’d multiply the amount of water and spices by the number of people who were eating the food.
Since I knew the perfect ingredients for my dal rice, i.e., what I cook for myself in Noida – while cooking the same for my parents at home I’d just put 3X water and salt.
Thinking it would work.
Except that it didn’t.
It requires lesser water than 3X of a single person’s water. It is just building up.
In life if we want to do something that seems humongous, we just need to begin the difficult process. As we keep taking small steps, we realise in the latter half of the journey that later you don’t have to make those 3X or 4X of efforts at the start.
The compound interest of your efforts will be more than enough to make you reach the destination.
You just need to start. Will you?
I love imli chutney. Whenever I go home, I just being a can filled with it, prepared by my Mom.
Since we are in the middle of a lockdown and I am unable to go home, today I asked Maa to teach me how to make chutney.
What she described as a process took me 90 minutes just to crush the tamarind! Pre and post processes notwithstanding.
Process. Journey. Of going through the crushing process. Of just going through it.
Going through it.