I was talking with a male friend, who was sharing his story of how he did not want to pursue career of his parents’ choice.
He shared how at a point of time he was frustrated at taking money from his parents, so he decided to switch what from what his parents wanted to do, to something non-conventional.
While he shared this resistance to take money from his parents, he added: “Men are more likely to have this urge to be out on their own, and not take money from parents.”
Dude what do you think of women?
I have never taken money from my parents in the last five years.
How can you do this gender discrimination when you don’t know how women think like?
That’s what the feminist inside of me wanted to tell him. And he would have heard it and even said sorry perhaps.
Yet I decided to stay shut up and not say a word in retaliation.
Here’s why:
• World is not changed by anger. Even if you’re right, anger dilutes your stance.
• He was not wrong, he just hasn’t adopted the mindset of how an independent woman would like to be treated. Maybe he is showing that he considers himself to be “the man” who has the right to extraordinarily, so be it. It should not lower my respect for him as an individual, rather it should tell me how to deal with him going forward.
• Most importantly, my father who is the most important man in my life, treats me and my sisters with the best love and respect he could ever give. That’s what is one of my greatest assets.
Be grateful for what you have, don’t walk out in the world with a sword in your hand.
And change the world with your existence, not with your excitement.
