What if you shout at everyone at work and at home, and think you are a good person just because you are kind to people in a temple?
Your personality is defined by what you do consistently, everywhere.
If your personality changes and becomes different at different places, that’s conditional formatting.
That isn’t you.
The question, to consider then, is this: “Who or what you are in your most comfortable space?”
Do you want to retain that part of you or does it need some alteration?
Don’t think of change, think of who do you wish to become when that change becomes a part of you.
Think of you-ing, versus you-doing.