This was a random question by one of my smart school friends on one of my tweets.
It got me thinking.
Not to think of what to respond, rather to think of where we have landed ourselves.
We want evidences of thoughts we think intuitively.
We want to buy a car recommended by most people.
We want to wear the brand our boss wears because subconsciously it would make us look cool in front of him.
We want to send our kid to the school that promises best education, unmindful of the fact that the best schooling happens at home.
We want to…
All these are good wants. But that’s all they are. Wants.
They override the innate need that we all have: Needs.
One of our fundamental human needs is listening to our intuition. It will never have evidences. Nor does it want any. It is full by itself not having to want (or need) any validation.
The days I workout the best, meditate the best, am working as per schedule, eating less, walking more are the days when there are challenges.
On the days things are going okay, life also gets average.
So don’t pray for more “settled” or okay days.
Wish for more strength and you will see yourself impersonating calm in every situation of life.
Try to karke dekho 🙂
You have your loved ones with you.
They are supporting you in your journey.
Accepting you for what you are doing.
Loving you unconditionally.
And that’s beautiful!
However, there needs to be an additional element: Of accepting and appreciating yourself.
Too often when we are in the hustle and grind, we forget to be appreciative to the one person who needs it the most: Ourselves.
And that causes a deep lack that no one could ever be fulfilled.
It’s as important a habit as brushing your teeth. When you are self aware, working on what’s not working, appreciating yourself holds equivalent if not greater importance.
Right now. Starting today.
When you are angry, don’t respond.
When you are angry, trust yourself it will get better.
When you are angry, go outdoors (yes, even balcony would help.)
When you are angry, do NOT reach out to your phone.
And next time when you are angry, and you calm down, ask yourself, how to protect yourself from the same thing next time?
We feel great when they badmouth others. Yet we feel superbad when someone else does it for us.
We do not feel anything while making others feel lonely. Yet we never want to feel that emotion ourselves.
We love to be loved. Yet do not love.
We feel great on doing something and useless on doing nothing – whereas doing nothing makes doing something worthwhile.
We want more time, yet are poor managers of our own.
The irony that needs to be solved in the world starts with one person solving it for themselves.
If you ever feel you can trust others, maybe there’s actually something to change.
Not with them, perhaps with your relationship with the person in the mirror.
Our relationships with others are simply a reflection of how we treat ourselves.
Since charity begins at home, so does trust begin with yourself.
Surprisingly, as you begin to develop that relationship with yourself, no one ever breaks your trust.
Dressing up like someone else.
Talking like someone else.
Talking to be liked by someone else, even though you want to be silent.
Going to disco because everyone (other than you) feels it’s cool.
Posting that content which “they” will like.
The list is endless, my friend. However, your life does have an end. The sad news is, you don’t know when.
Then waiting doesn’t make sense, right?