Irrelevance

I often think about irrelevance.
What will make you irrelevant?

When someone else takes your job?
When you grow but miss your roots?
When you think there is something that, if taken away from you, you will lose your identity?

The truth is, whatever you have, will be taken away from you.
If not now, on your death.

Thus, the fear of irrelevance is technically the insecurity of giving up all you have.

Now that you know that it will go away anyway, how to deal with it?

  1. By being the most positive person you know.
  2. By being the most thoughtful person you know
  3. By making people so powerful that they grow and nurture by themselves.
  4. By not worrying about ego satiety, and caring about how your vibes nurture people.
  5. More than anything else, know that you matter, and you bring things to the table that no one else can.

Questions companies should ask their best employees

  1. When you go (and if you do), what could be the reason?
  2. What makes you most insecure right now?
  3. What is the best part of your work?
  4. How do you feel about work on your worst days? How could we make it better?
  5. How do you feel about work on your best days? How could we do more of those?
  6. What part of the job you hate?
  7. If you had to change one thing forever, what would that be?
  8. What would be a part of struggle that you look forward to?
  9. What is an unnecessary struggle?
  10. Do you sometimes tend to lose your faith on the company? How can we make sure that the trust remains intact?
  11. How can we make your job a better place to be?

Less known reasons why you are suffering

  1. You want people to love you on posting your insta photos, and yet you do not want to understand people at the root, for who they are.
  2. You find solace in more meetings and less solo execution.
  3. You think therapy without taking responsibility of your life will heal you.
  4. You think you can be your raw, unpolished self and yet have all the love in the world.
  5. You want to have incremental money every month, and that in itself, is a trap.
  6. You want people to love your insta stories, while secretly hating the people whose approval you crave for.
  7. You know you are not okay, and all your efforts are directed towards showing that you are okay, instead of healing the un-okay part of you.

Let go

Let go of the need for validation.
Let go of the need to have the credit.
Let go of the illusion that you aren’t enough.
Let go of the fact that your childhood can’t change.
Let go of the fact that people will love you for your truth.
Let go of the people who don’t care for you as a human being.
Let go of the unprofessional people who want you to take care of 100% professionalism.

Let go, Nishtha. That is when you will truly be able to hold what is 100% yours – your positivity and power.

Things NEVER to do with parents

1. Never touch their nerves. Just listen.

2. Do your own thing. Even if they aren’t happy, you can never make anyone happy if you aren’t.

3. Don’t tell them your struggles. While you will move on, they will stay married to it.

Though most people won’t agree to it, if their parents won’t see them, they would still be agreeing to it.

Rules of professionalism

Some rules of professionalism that you will never be taught, yet are the most important ones:

  1. Respond.
    Yes, as simple as this. Bro, there is no point taking out the frustration of your bf / gf / ex on to your professional relationships. If someone is asking, it is professional to respond. If someone is sending an information, it is professional to give a thumbs up.

    People don’t work with people for product or services. People work for the care. Give them! Because it’s the right thing to do.
  2. Be on time.
    On time means on time. If it is a Zoom call, 4 pm means 4 pm. Not 4:15, stating 15 minutes is okay. No it’s not. So is the case with in-person meetings.

    The formula is again simple. People see how much you care about them. That will make them decide if they can refer you to others, or figure out a way to get out of this engagement asap.
  3. Do what you say you will do. EVERY. SINGLE. TIME.
    The line is maarofied from my boss, however, emotions are the same.
    You say you will deliver a report by 7? Keep an internal deadline of 5 and email it max by 5:30.
    You say you will come back? Be specific and tell by when will you come back. Not next week. Rather which day in the next week.
    You say you need time to think? Perfect. Can you please communicate by when will you respond?

    Repetition hashtag three: People care for people who care. It simply shows you are involved.

Living an organised professional life does not make you Monica from F.R.I.E.N.D.S.
It just makes you an accountable human being, about whom people would not think twice, before referring.

Random thoughts on the go

1. Went to the mall after 20 months perhaps. Had to buy chappal. Went to Crossword Book store, got lost there and came back 🙂

My today’s shopping

2. Good to see life back to normal. I feel good for dahi papdi waale bhaiya, SIM card waale bhaiya, e rickshaw waale bhaiya, shakarakand waali Didi, and all those people whose employment depended on going out.

3. As I was going through the Crossword Book Store today, I also thought of fundamental rules of life. Here we go:

4. A good question for you: What parts of “normal” are even worth returning to?

Letting go of a client

Letting go of 1.5 year old client at the end of this month.

We have grown together. In our business. And work. And maybe as human beings as well as our professional relationships.

However, as we grow, we change priorities.

For me, I need answers to work related questions to create content on personal branding. For him, he has just raised funding and maybe (rightly) does not have time. It is, thus, inappropriate for me to continue with inauthentic content.

The best part, which I also believe is the most mature part: He respected my decision instead of trying to stop me.

Btw, the reason for leaving that I have communicated to him is me not having time out of my day job. In reality, it is his lack of time for his own content that is making me make this decision.

Over the past few months, I have had several conversations with him about sharing his content, along with citing examples from other creators. However, since things aren’t changing much, it is better for us to part ways.

Still, he remains one of the most trusting and easiest clients I’ve ever worked with.

Bless him, with a better content writer, and the best business 🙂