The art of asking

The best way to ask for a busy person’s time is NOT by asking them when they’re free.

They value their free time more than their “busy time” and would protect it at all costs.

A more effective way is: To ask how they can help, where the response most likely would be a one-liner.

If you convince them to care, they will dig out the time when they are “busy.”

10 years ago

Mark Manson asked a question on Twitter today: List three things you wish you understood 10 years ago.

Here’s my response:

1. To say no in a potential relationship, where you know it ain’t going to work, is power.

2. Invest in equity.

3. Build a community.

PS: I was already working out, meditating, reading books and eating right at that point. So missed out these basics ๐Ÿ™‚

Chemical reactions in the body

The body – how it responds to chemical reactions is very very weird.

A few days back I mentioned how I bingewatched Dill Mill Gayye on a weekend.
The TV show, in many ways, was an inspiration for the people of my generation.
The cute people, the pure love, the sparks flying at workplace – everything.

Until I spent some time alone for so many years, getting to know the reality.

This morning I was reminded of one instance from the show – where the male protagonist goes on with a friend and feigns as her husband in front of her family, so that her family members stop pressing her for marriage. He does all this without informing the female protagonist, with whom he is deeply in love with.

Today, just by remembering that instance, I was sent into a state of feeling like crying, as to how this could happen.

Of course, a lot of this relates to the past mistakes I made.

Which brings me to the question – do we really forgive people or does our body remember everything?

If the body remembers it, it is up to the mind to practice focussed forgiveness – for a long, long period of time. Even when it is not asked for. Not for the other person. So that we go beyond our limitations that didn’t even exist.

Don’t we owe this to ourselves?

Five fave one-liners

  1. We are our strongest when we listen to our inner voice more than what our idols say.
  2. The only birthday preparation introverts make is turn on phone notifications the day before.
  3. The doers have one core value: They never talk much about their future plans. They just let their work do the talking.
  4. When someone asks you: “How you did it?” and you stumble for a bit instead of showing, “This is how…”, you’re truly humble.
  5. Do it even if your parents disagree. They will disagree to things they themselves said once. Why not actually go live your life? (PS: Disagreement does not mean being disrespectful.)

Boss Lady

To be a boss lady, you do not have to become the boss of the team. You just have to be the boss of your life.

Lemme show that to you with an example:

Pic 1
Pic 2

If you observe closely, in Pic 1 I am having a fake smile versus Iโ€™m just being a natural in Pic 2.

Why so? Because that day I was going to do something that I should have said no to. So I was not in my best frame of mind. It is from 2018.

In pic 2, from March 2021, Iโ€™m just myself all the time. Being happy, saying no to things that donโ€™t matter, and more than anything else, being the boss of my life.

So, if you want to be the Boss Lady, just live your life on your own terms. And not to impress anyone.

Tested negative?

Yes, it is the most positive word of 2020 and 2021, given the situations we are in.

However, what happens if a report is positive?

Do we dread death? Or are we scared if our family would be affected? Or do our deepest fears pop up?

The big wrong is not with the Covid. The big thing we have to deal with is not having to be alone. And thatโ€™s scary.

Pre-weekend lessons of life

  1. Everyone is right. Even if we think otherwise.
  2. So are you. Even if you think otherwise.
  3. In case of an emotional outburst, spend time with a good book.
  4. You become whom you spend time with on Instagram. Choose that wisely ๐Ÿ™‚
  5. The world is feeding you a template each day. What you do in your capacity to be a rebel defines who you are.

I’ve visited 36 cities so far!

The other day I was counting the number of cities I’ve visited, and the number came out to be an impressive one, largely due to my former two jobs being in audit. Here’s a list (in almost chronological order), just for your fun and for my records ๐Ÿ˜€

  1. Kota (Hometown – born and brought up)
  2. Baran
  3. Jaipur
  4. Ahmedabad
  5. Mahudi
  6. Delhi (includes Noida, Faridabad, Gurgaon, and Ghaziabad)
  7. Mumbai
  8. Ludhiana
  9. Lucknow
  10. Amritsar
  11. Jalandhar
  12. Chandigarh
  13. Patiala
  14. Varanasi
  15. Allahabad
  16. Ambala
  17. Dehradun
  18. Phagwara
  19. Kanpur
  20. Kasauli
  21. Jodhpur
  22. Bundi
  23. Kishangarh
  24. Bangalore
  25. Bikaner
  26. Bathinda
  27. Bagdogra
  28. Gangtok
  29. Goa
  30. Rudrapur
  31. Haridwar
  32. Agra
  33. Meerut
  34. Mathura
  35. Roorkee
  36. Mount Abu

That’s it folks, so far! Not bad ๐Ÿ™‚
Will keep editing the list and also add the dates of the edits. This one is being written on 19th Feb 2021, let’s see where the destiny drives us further. No matter where we go, let’s stay within!