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Do you have someone around you, who is not talking to you?
You’ve tried everything, yet there happens to be some mystery?
I came across this quote of Tony Robbins, that would help:
“The unhappy person resents it when you try to cheer him up, because that means he has to stop dwelling on himself and start paying attention to the universe. Unhappiness is the ultimate form of self-indulgence.” – Tony Robbins
Read that again. And again.
And then, bless them. And move on!
Had the first therapy session today.
Who in the world talks about it openly?
Well, we haven’t been open, that is why we have been needing therapy 🙂
On that note, it felt a bit better. Even though it will take some time to heal unseen wounds of years, well, all is well that starts well. 😊
The more you care only about getting positive feedback, the more you will escape your growth.
Your work is to excel at your work. If you’re constantly degrading at it, you’re making it impossible for others to trust you.
Don’t focus on being liked. Focus on being curious, learning, and really really listening!
Don’t send that angry message / email. Calm yourself down.
People are people. They are going to overestimate what they do. So don’t feel let down when they
You won’t be a superhero when you commit to doing 10 projects and you do 6. You will be a superhero when you commit 6 and do 6. Your words matter. A lot.
Don’t try to impress your boss. Or anyone. The more you try to do that, they will sniff it. They just expect you to be real. And do the good old hard work. Along with the smart one.
Talk to your boss. Talk about your problems, what’s troubling you, what isn’t working, etc. Don’t expect him to get back to you every single day.
But, at the end of the day, you should be happy going to work each day 🙂
My parents have been eating a lot of cake in the month of June.
Mom’s birthday was 1st June, then Father’s Day and then my birthday as well.
In case of Mom and Father’s day, there were 4 and 2 cakes respectively cut at our home.
So in between those, when my sister sent two pieces of my niece’s birthday cake, I quietly sneaked out and gave it to the guard’s family that stays on the ground floor of our building.
Also, they deserve good things in life! (If my parents weren’t there to have an eye on me, I would share a lot of good things with them!! :D)
When I came back upstairs and told that to my Mom, my Mom scolded me.
For wasting so much cake!
Perhaps forgetting that she already has diabetes.
And Papa is obese for a long time.
But no matter what, a delicious cake need not be wasted!
I regret giving away the cake.
Not because she scolded at me or because it was too tasty!
But because you cannot change someone who refuses to be changed.
I hadn’t thought I would write this on my 30th birthday.
First of all, wish you a very happy birthday Nishtha. It takes courage to show up every day. And you are a brave girl. Braver than you know 🙂
Now, I somehow felt very very lonely today. Just want today to end ASAP. I know I should be grateful for things that I do have, but somehow not facing the issues is making me weaker.
So here are the issues (it’s okay if you don’t want to read further. But I want to move further, and nothing is a better vent than this):
With that, if you have reached this far, thank you, for listening. I am doing therapy next week and hopefully I will see some light into these dark summer days.
Life is otherwise good.
And you know what, while I was crying incessantly while typing what went wrong, I feel much much better for what I wrote above.
The good always has the power to wipe out the bad. I just felt it. Without even planning for it. Hope the same for you.
On that note, wish you a very happy birthday Nishtha:)
You’re a rockstar. Don’t let anyone else tell you otherwise.
A good writer reads.
A great writer studies well-written texts.
A good writer is attached to their work.
A great writer loves their work, and is flexible to make changes. (Almost ALL the time :D)
A good writer wants others to like their work.
A great writer writes because she cannot not write.
A good writer writes when they are in a mood of writing.
A great writer writes, no matter what, and gets into a great mood.
A good writer faces writer’s block.
A great writer keeps writing, and lets the editing weed out non-essentials.
A good writer gets tired after a long session.
A great writer gets euphoric after a long session.
A good writer is in it for the rewards.
A great writer, gets rewarded for the process she follows daily.
Anyone can be a good writer.
It takes love for the process, the constant upskilling, and enjoying the flow, to become a great one.
The best way to ask for a busy person’s time is NOT by asking them when they’re free.
They value their free time more than their “busy time” and would protect it at all costs.
A more effective way is: To ask how they can help, where the response most likely would be a one-liner.
If you convince them to care, they will dig out the time when they are “busy.”
A part of the work I do has these processes:
Mostly, the post is about adding value. Sometimes, that value added comes with some backlash from people (that is one of the secrets of getting viral…more about that later btw :D)
Now, there are two types of people I work with:
I just love the type 1 clients. Never argue with them for money. They pay whatever I ask. Never interfere. Rather I request them to interfere.
Find clients like those, and keep upping your game. You will be left with awe, work you love, and most importantly, self respect.
Last Sunday, we had a blast on Father’s Day. Nothing “special”. Just that since it was Sunday, I took my Kindle and sat in the living room, instead of sneaking into my room.
Had life conversations with my parents.
Got to know that my father’s first internship started at age 6.
Learnt the immense power of putting your head down and doing the work, even when you are not being paid.
And more than anything else, got the immense power of learning to spend some time together with family. Not everyday religiously, but at least consistently :))
Organisations have time sheets for their employees to fill.
Which every employee fills with productivity hours.
Not realising, it indeed hampers their productivity.
This is how it works: If an employee works for 8 hours and another one for 5 hours, the first one is more productive.
Except that its not true.
What if the second employee took 30 minutes to nap?
Or went for a walk for an hour that indeed multiplied her productivity?
Or perhaps went to the office balcony and stared at the nature for a few minutes, which indeed let her look at an error that the “8-hour-productive employee” failed to look at?
We all function at different levels of efficiency. But most people term people just as “productive” or “unproductive” on a system that silently makes the productive one also unproductive. Because she cannot do all of that and has to be at work for 8 hours, she will lose her interest, curiosity, and of course, productivity.
The last thing we signed up for, while creating timesheet productivity!
This morning I posted a one-liner on LinkedIn:
You don’t know how much you can learn, until you sign up to learn.
Had two really weird comments.
Comment 1:
Comment 2 (Reply to Comment 1 by a stranger):
Thank you, to the wonderful community that stands for strangers and corrects the not-so-good others are standing for.
Thank you! 😊
Think of a team of 20 people.
All are doing their work.
Some are rockstars, some are just getting along.
But you see the management treating everyone at par.
When you are a rockstar, this might irk you.
Someone else who is not performing is also being treated as well.
But…there comes a time, when things get levelled up.
We’ve all experienced this before.
The question is: What are we experiencing even when we are doing our best work? Envy or happiness?
Last Sunday, my client and I worked on a particular task to be done by him.
Today’s Friday, I didn’t get a response from him so far.
Should I be mad? (No, I don’t do that anymore.)
Should I remind? (Who am I? A primary class teacher who ruins the curiosity of a kid?)
Should I stop doing the work because he didn’t respond? (No, he didn’t hire me to do stuff when everything was going fine, I was hired to figure out stuff even when things weren’t fine.)
So, I went ahead with doing his stuff. Even if it was at 60% output, it was way better than 0% output.
And today he messaged that he delayed because of a due diligence audit.
See – such serious reason and I would have reasoned him to simply avoiding our work.
This not only applies to our professional life, rather also to our personal lives. We are creating mental constructs based on our assumptions of feeling worthless, while the reality is someone is trapped in other physical constructs.
Strange, no? Not really. We get to choose our thoughts baby!
Currently, I’m a part of two paid cohorts:
Do you know what is the surprising part?
They share NOTHING new, everything is already there as a free information on the internet.
Do you know what is the more surprising part?
PS: Of these, the Writing course is employer sponsored 🙂
Up-skilling not only takes you out of your comfort zone, it makes sure you create new comfort zones for yourself. And then rinse and repeat.
It was June 2011 when my friend dragged me to a seminar after college.
It was “Aadarsh Amdavad”, a 15-day self-help workshop, that consisted of:
After that fortnight of daily wisdom, I felt a surge of happiness that I didn’t want to let go of.
So I started walking to Crossword Book Stores near my college, after the workshop got over.
For hours, I would just sit there and read, not knowing I was getting into an affair it would be impossible to get out of.
For hours, I would not care about anything in the outside world, just me and the books.
For hours, daily, it was a retreat from everything else in the world!
That love affair has lead to a lifetime partnership with books now.
More than anything else, keeping myself lost in that world has lead me to find myself, over and over again, peel by peel, page by page.
Here’s to a decade of that relationship 🙂
Here’s to a relationship that is with you ALWAYS…
Here’s to a lifetime of companionship!!!
It is not about wanting to quit.
It is about the consistent emotion.
What do you feel on a day to day basis is more important that what you feel on the high and the low days.
Think of a scene in a household.
A millennial / GenZ is working on their laptop.
Mom is working on her things.
They are not talking. Not out of anger. Just because they’re chill.
Now imagine this.
Today, the Mom has gone to her Mom’s place.
Dad is at home because of evening curfew.
All of a sudden he feels alone.
Because guess what? The millennial kid is still working, nothing changed.
All of a sudden Dad felt he and his presumed “importance” were not catered to.
We do this so often, so much, that we even forget we do this.
What? The need to make men not feel alone.
That’s why shy girls speak more when around men. Just to comfort them.
Or daughters try to please Dads. Just because of this subconscious need to not make him feel alone.
Or why overriding a man’s instructions in office has to be supported with reasons.
If there is one thing women must not do, is this: Try to please men. It is so so so deep-rooted that we think it is our love for them, however, it is in reality rooting to that nature of not letting silence do the talking.
For females – in formal and personal relationships, we do a lot of talking through silence.
For males – in all relationships, you do not need to do the talking.
Just be. Who you are. In every relationship. Irrespective of the gender of the person you’re speaking to.
We had a fun team meeting this afternoon.
Here are the pics:
Tried this for the first time, and I must say, it was beautiful experience.
Maybe I’m gonna do it again. Very soon. 🙂
4 things to let go of:
Learn from everyone. Look for qualities of all. Do not get entangled.
Study yourself. Study knowledge. And have a great life, that you want to live by.
Someone else in your team is cooler than you.
Or more beautiful.
Or cracks better jokes.
But you know what, you are best just as you are.
Amplifying on your goodness is the coolest thing you can do.