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If there is one skill to learn forever, it is the skill to say “no”.
No to the colleague who makes fun of our values.
No to the activities that you don’t want to sign up for.
No to the client that anyway doesn’t respect your material.
However, the people that say the most “no’s” are the people that say a lot of “yes” to the right things. And if we have not mastered the art of saying no to others, we are ultimately saying “no” to ourselves. Is that the life you want to live?
Just because we are humans, we will thrive in accordance with living with other humans.
This would, in itself, make the process difficult because all humans are different.
However, if you learn to be easy, things are going to change – because you cared for the common good, you cared to make the other person feel good, and also you didn’t care to follow the angry zone of the world and marched to your own beat of ease and peace.
Neither too excited.
Nor too indifferent.
Just being. And listening as if we are wrong.
That would bring about the biggest changes in each conversation.
Today I received a LinkedIn DM from an old school mate.
Nothing real, just very small talk to strike a conversation.
And I decided to ignore it.
Not because I had some expectations of him and he had shattered them.
Rather because how long?
How long will we keep basing our dopamine on random DMs from strangers?
How long will we keep wasting our time in pursuits that cumulatively waste days from our years?
How long will we allow someone else to decide when will we be available on social and they steer the conversation?
The best people live on the edge of saying no. That’s where everything happens.
To listen to “yes’s” saying hundreds of “no’s” is the most important thing. Sometimes even in a day.
Warren Buffet says that he enjoys his work so much that he would tap dance to work, and paint on the ceiling of Sistine Chapel.
Life is supposed to be like this.
At a point of time in my life, my life didn’t look like this. I hated my days.
Yet I continued investing in my learning.
And what came out of it, is totally novel.
Life feels blissful. Even if I work more, it is the best version of my life so far. Still to get better each day.
The thing that saved me, that will probably save you as well, is: investing in my learning each day. No matter what.
Everything else is just a byproduct.
The light is always there.
Beyond the clouds when the flight takes off.
After the dawn.
Inside a book.
Everywhere there is the light.
We just need to let it know that it is important. It is needed. It is powerful.
Rejection.
No one wants to be rejected.
Yet we do get rejected all the time – in relationships that didn’t work out, in jobs where we didn’t find our happiness, in childhood when we were scolded for no fault of ours.
It’s like someone inserting a scalpel into your eyes without giving you the anaesthesia.
Even the thought pricks a hole in the heart.
Yet it’s impossible to find a successful person who was not rejected. Not one ever.
Rejection does not mean we were wrong or we were not accepted.
It simply means we were not aligned.
Relationship rejection – love yourself now.
Job rejection – your work you love is shouting out loud at you to be noticed.
Childhood rejection – don’t do the same to your kids (and your parents).
Rejection never stops anyone. Unless one is ready to be stopped.
You get to decide.
1. Everyone is simply doing their best. Even if it is hard to admit, it is the truth.
2. Your role is to love. Starting with you.
3. Your role is to improve yourself. Everything else will eventually rise.
4. People making it to the world records – don’t have to make you feel worried – if that’s not where you want to be.
5. It will all be sorted out in the end. What you need to take control of, is today.
If you have ever been in a place where you’ve had no idea about what’s going on, consider the following:
• Are you allowing others to create your ideas?
• Are you making choices to impress others and yet hate the choices you’ve made?
• Are you eating more than what you should?
If you really want to move ahead in life, be your own teacher and correct yourself.
No one else is coming for your rescue. You already have the idea, you’re just ignoring it under the darkness of…you know under whose darkness.
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You and I have come across this several times: Everything that happens is perfect and for the good.
Then, why do people get upset at the outset of things not happening right?
Because they want to control it. They want to have the certainty, unbeknownst of the fact that it’s the uncertainty yet faith in the sun and rain that makes the crops grow.
If you go back to any situation of your past, most certainly you would find yourself contented today, with what happened.
If future can give you the capacity to accept the past, then the present has even more capacity to allow you to accept, that:
Everything will ultimately turn out to be good.
Peace is cool.
What’s hot, is, how to do it in the first place.
There is a simple formula for peace: you can practice it in chaotic moments only if you make time to practice it in moments of solitude and ease.
Unless anything becomes a second nature, the chances of it showing up in a moment of fire is certainly difficult.