Be so capable that your presence serves the world.
- Save your thoughts
- Save your time
- Save your words
The lesser you use the the more your thoughts, time and words will have power.
Tag: life
Jab bhi kabhi
Papa mujhe
Jo zor se
Jhula jhulaate hain Maa
(Ab Papa jhula to nahi jhulate par metaphorical jhula jhulate hain)
Meri nazar
Dhundhe tujhe
Sochu yehi
Tu aake thaamegi Maa…
Unse main yeh kehta nahi
Par sehem jaata hu main Maa
(Shayad Maa bhi sehmi hui hai)
Chehre pe aane deta nahi
Dil hi dil mein ghabraata hu Maa
Tujhe sab hai pata
Hai na Maa
Tujhe sab hai pataaaa
Meri Maa ❣️
Recently, someone whom I trusted professionally betrayed my trust – of course, professionally.
Not for the first time. Rather for the nth time.
Then why am I still stuck?
When is the right time to leave?
Why don’t I teach them a lesson?
Honestly I don’t know. Because no coin is two-dimensional with two sides, every coin is a 3D art with multiple aspects. Not that I am not able to see clearly, rather I am waiting for the right time.
There are multiple virtues of being young and there is a vice of acting on impulse because you’re young. Never let the vice ruin your life forever. Thinking before acting is a superpower. Not acting for long is lack of trust in yourself. Finding that balance is what makes you irresistable.
August 2017.
It was a usual day at work.
I went to the Operations Head, asking to share the records and documents needed for my work.
Back then, I used to work as an Internal Auditor, and the core job was visiting branches and conducting audits, with the help of branch operations team.
This fine day, as I was going back to my desk after talking with the Operations Head, when she called my name and said, “You always look stunning!”
And it took a moment for my mask of “follow me I am the auditor” to more of a humble, kinder human.
That of course, didn’t affect my work, however, it did tell me that it’s super important to appreciate people for their little things.
As my bosses used to say: “Neither of you are against each other, you both are working for the bank.”
PS: If you do not want AI to replace you, learn from this girl who showed the human side of her.
PPS: No, it didn’t affect my report however it did affect how I reflect on life.
And that’s super important 🙂
Don’t be too desperate.
Don’t be submissive either.
Walk your path, and walk assertively.
Bend, if need be. The one who bends is the one who has a flexible spine that could do anything.
Real gold is soft.
Yet, it is an alloy if there is any mixture.
And, rich is the human who doesn’t waste the resources of time, thoughts and powers.
You can, because there isn’t a time when you haven’t been able to.
Yesterday I wrote a post where I was really sad.
Today I came across a tweet that said if you be friends with your colleagues, you are most likely not going to get the work done.
That just hit hard!
Lesson of life:
Be friendly, however, never be friends with a colleague.
Be there for them, however, don’t share your vulnerabilities with them.
Be you, yet don’t be the deepest you.
Lesson learnt, move on baby! Cya tomorrow 🙂
“I just hate this job.
I’m gonna quit!”
Have you ever felt this way about a job / client / internship?
If you have, we all are a part of the same boat.
However, here’s a few question:
– Do we want to quit because of envy?
– Is this the same way with every job?
– What kind of life do you want?
I came across this startling realisation while reading “Your Next Five Moves” by Patrick Bet-David, and the enormous clarity he offered in an instance in the book.
And when you do, here’s another piece of advice from Mark Manson: “The person you marry is the person you fight with. The house you buy is the house you repair. The dream job you take is the job you stress over. Everything comes with an inherent sacrifice — whatever makes us feel good will also inevitably make us feel bad. What we gain is also what we lose. What creates our positive experiences will define our negative experiences. This is a difficult pill to swallow. This is why our problems are recursive and unavoidable.”
Finding answers to these questions isn’t easy, however, that isn’t what you signed up for in the first place, right?
So, what kind of life do you want?
Flip rotis with patience.
Eat with patience.
Drink water with patience.
Warm-up and cool down with patience.
Also, be patient with yourself – because if being critical could help, it would have helped by now.
While you are suffering in your life, someone’s parent is struggling hard to breathe.
While you are suffering in your life, someone in a worse position than you is owning their life.
What’s your excuse?
You have your loved ones with you.
They are supporting you in your journey.
Accepting you for what you are doing.
Loving you unconditionally.
And that’s beautiful!
However, there needs to be an additional element: Of accepting and appreciating yourself.
Too often when we are in the hustle and grind, we forget to be appreciative to the one person who needs it the most: Ourselves.
And that causes a deep lack that no one could ever be fulfilled.
It’s as important a habit as brushing your teeth. When you are self aware, working on what’s not working, appreciating yourself holds equivalent if not greater importance.
Right now. Starting today.
Will you?
“Knock knock!”
“Who’s there?”
“It’s me!”
“Who me?”
“Your love…”
The one behind the gate doesn’t respond.
“Knock knock!”
“Who’s there?”
“You.”
“Who ‘you’?”
“I am You…”
The one behind the gate doesn’t respond again.
“Knock knock!”
“Who’s there?”
This time, no response comes from the other side.
That’s when, the one behind the gate opens it up.
I usually equate this story to the love for work.
Back in the day when I used to be unhappy in my corporate job, the most fulfilling moments were the ones when I got beyond “I hate my job” and did the work because it brought moments of joy.
Right now as I am a freelance writer, the discipline is still required despite I love this work the most. And the days I just work and let it flow, are the days that I enjoy the most, instead of pondering about “I have to be disciplined to write.”
“Work is God made real,” said Kahlil Gibran, in The Prophet.
Whenever we have gone beyond the realms of “someone else” and “me” and allowed the joy to emerge, is when we have felt most fulfilled.
Fulfillment isn’t a miracle that shows up. It’s something that shows up when we don’t allow our lower faculties to play the game.
Last weekend, I was having a casual chat with a writer friend.
After exchanging pleasantries, I thanked him for helping me bag a wonderful client, to which he responded, “Thanks to YOU, it’s your hard work.” And thus, we continued being humble.
As the conversation proceeded, he told me he had also applied for a writing engagement, which was finally bagged by me.
Those words of him just moved me. Here I was, getting envious of the number of clients and interesting assignments he has, and here he was, perhaps having the same emotion as me.
Too often, we take the most important things in life for granted.
The work that brings food on our plate.
The parents (no matter how weird they are) that make us fight for our existence 🙂
The friends who make us realise we aren’t alone.
The colleagues and clients who understand us when we had expected to be fired.
And most importantly, counting the endless blessings in our life when the Life we have today was the life we had dreamt of years ago.
How will we get more and be more if we aren’t grateful for what we have already been blessed with?
Thank you, my dear friend, your humility was always an inspiration for me. Now you are an inspiration to be grateful for my blessings. You rock! Like always 🙂
Death has taken bigger toll on 2020 than we had ever expected.
It has become a daily feat to conquer instead of facing it at the end of the life.
However, when death comes with a possibility threat, it also comes as a reminder:
1. That if it comes to grab us, let it take us away with our happiness, instead of letting its fear take away our happiness.
2. That there are people who need our support and just our emotional presence. We can always be there for them, even if we are not around them. Let our loved ones know you care. Because you do. And because they need you.
3. This moment is all we have. We don’t know what’s next, however we do own what we have now.
When we feel empty, most of us navigate to social media.
Except that it doesn’t help.
Instead, what really helps is appreciation.
Whenever we are appreciated by someone, we feel a sense of validation.
Except, that it won’t come always.
So why not appreciate ourselves every time?
Why not be grateful for what is working?
Why not, be our own cheerleader?
Of course we can, when we can do it all the time for others.
If you feel lack of love, talk to your Mom.
If you feel lack of understanding, talk to your best friend.
If you feel lack of health, watch an influencer’s video on YouTube.
If you feel you lack happiness, talk to a kid.
If you feel away from yourself, talk to yourself.
What is the cost of living life on your own terms?
You will be criticised by people who aren’t living their life on their own terms.
Don’t blame them, have sympathy for them.
Don’t wait for them to say sorry, you forgive them.
More than anything else, don’t stop when they want to live life according to you. They aren’t happy, you please don’t give up on yours because of their lack of it. The best way to make someone happy is to be happy yourself
There was one instance last week, where my Mom needed my help.
And I couldn’t.
More so, I’m glad I couldn’t.
Here’s why:
I do not have membership of any OTT: Netflix, Prime, Hotstar – none.
This is something that I’m proud of – for saving hours of my precious time.
So last week when my Mom missed an episode of a serial, she asked me to search for it in Hotstar app.
And lo’ an behold, as much a techie I am, I couldn’t search for it! Tried and made errors, still no success!
A beautiful example of why ignorance is bliss and superpower sometimes.
While my Mom managed to forgive me, I just loved this non-awareness of mine.
Our mind, of course, is a beautiful garden that doesn’t deserve the seeds of hatred from the TV.
Do you have such a weird habit?
What if a recruiter found a profile of gold and expressed the candidate clearly how good they were?
What if an influencer thanked a fan from the bottom of their heart when they did a nice gesture for them?
What if a boss voluntarily thanked an employee for the contribution they brought on the table?
We don’t express our truest emotions in our work because when we were on the receiving side of things, this is how the world worked.
The world we live in, is the world we have so meticulously created. So does the power to change vest onto us. How will we use it?
1. Never type an e-mail in an impulse.
2. Attend lesser (read: no) parties.
3. Don’t assume, simply ask.
4. If at all you assume about people, assume the most positive outcome. Assuming about work isn’t even allowed until made clear.
5. Read Naval Ravikant daily.
For almost half a year, we’ve all been working remotely. While the new world comes along with its advantages and disadvantages, there is something under the covers we fail to see:
Since we lack communication, we fall in the trap of assuming. That assumption is often towards the negative side.
Perhaps we can’t have more communication with others anyway.
So why not start having those with our own selves? Why not start figuring out the most powerful meanings, when the meaning is up to us? Why do we have to just go the negative way?