If someone screws up their work, chances are they’re already feeling bad.
They came to you to know that it’s going to be okay!
Let them know of that ❤️
Tag: work
Your idol is doing something you don’t want to be doing.
The world is telling you to do that just doesn’t feel right!
Someone in the extended family is teaching how to betray others.
Everyone has their opinions and what they say is right where they are.
You do your own thing. Not because it’s hard. Rather because it’s difficult to be like someone else. When you are you, you will work harder than it is required, and you will feel zero fatigue because you are living by your own values.
Even if it is the same boring stuff every time, you know when you know.
To face failures is great.
To share it is greater, because you are being vulnerable.
To share it with those who will make fun of it and perhaps treat you with disrespect – shows you need to change your circle.
People will not understand you. They will expect from you, yet they won’t probably reciprocate it.
What to do then?
Should you also reciprocate?
Well, we all have tried it and it never worked.
The only thing that could be the solution for everything, every single thing is to keep yourself strong from inside. It’s an insurance no one could take away.
Like every insurance, you have to pay consistent premium (aka learning) in order to actually avail the benefits.
Like every insurance, you will have to stop frivolous spends (hanging around with those people) to be able to pay premium without fail.
Any business relationship we enter into, we may either feel it’s great or we may feel something is not right at all.
On the surface everything may look cool, you won’t be able to point out what.
Yet you know in your heart that this business relationship is not going to work right.
Be a little right to yourself, and walk out from there. Only when you get away from wrong, will the right make space in your life.
Rejection.
No one wants to be rejected.
Yet we do get rejected all the time – in relationships that didn’t work out, in jobs where we didn’t find our happiness, in childhood when we were scolded for no fault of ours.
It’s like someone inserting a scalpel into your eyes without giving you the anaesthesia.
Even the thought pricks a hole in the heart.
Yet it’s impossible to find a successful person who was not rejected. Not one ever.
Rejection does not mean we were wrong or we were not accepted.
It simply means we were not aligned.
Relationship rejection – love yourself now.
Job rejection – your work you love is shouting out loud at you to be noticed.
Childhood rejection – don’t do the same to your kids (and your parents).
Rejection never stops anyone. Unless one is ready to be stopped.
You get to decide.
Set myself some goals for today.
Work goals, reading goals, phone-call goals, meditation goals.
Accomplished none of them fully. How much did I actually accomplish, doesn’t make sense because incompleteness is incompleteness.
Also I used social media for 1 hour! It was a big big wastage of time in the morning immediately after breakfast.
Lesson learnt: Own your morning ritual and the day falls into place.
Lesson I still need to learn: You get to decide. You control your day. If you focus, it’s possible in 25% of the time.
Lesson I must learn: No one loves you basis social media comments and likes. Sharing content is good just because you want to. Opening multiple tabs is equivalent to eating food without washing your hands – unwanted invitation.
Looking forward to telling you a success story tomorrow. Till then, keep rocking!
PS: I am strong, healthy and with my family. Life is fab. Utterly grateful. Will just raise it higher tomorrow:)
When I receive an e-mail I didn’t expect to receive,
How I want to respond:
Mujhe tujhse baat hi nahi karni! Katta, katta, hamesha ke liye katta!!!
How I actually respond:
Sure, thank you.
Is this how sometimes even you want to respond? 💁🏻♀️
What are you thinking of lately?
What is it that is making you weak?
What is it that is making you strong?
How can you think your way out to becoming strong versus weak?
The best way to be liked by others is to love yourself first.
The best way to bring that change is to be the change, as Gandhi said.
The best way to change the world is to change yourself first.
We probably know all the answers. What we perhaps need to do, is to tell yourself you are the answer.
Hard work is easy.
It’s a choice.
One that you make when life offers you options not to be honest.
When you do make that choice, you’ve already won.
Hard work to understand yourself and others, and honesty to live by that.
The goal is to be so internally fulfilled that even though you may have time, you don’t want to scroll Instagram.
The goal is to respect your introversion and work in a team simultaneously.
The goal is to look at what’s working in others versus where they lack, as this is what a loved one does (with some occasional nudges here and there).
The goal is to have an understanding. The understanding that fortunately comes from within and through reflection, not external factors including OTT or social media.
The role of your work is to make someone else’s work easier.
If your work is built on letting others make their efforts, have we really made some good efforts?
Make an effort to reduce someone else’s efforts and their ease will serve as a blessing for you.
Going through this.
Saw it on James Clear’s newsletter, replicating it for you:
Bill Watterson, the cartoonist and creator of Calvin and Hobbes, on the difference between ambition and happiness:
“…having an enviable career is one thing, and being a happy person is another.
Creating a life that reflects your values and satisfies your soul is a rare achievement.
In a culture that relentlessly promotes avarice and excess as the good life, a person happy doing his own work is usually considered an eccentric, if not a subversive. Ambition is only understood if it’s to rise to the top of some imaginary ladder of success.
Someone who takes an undemanding job because it affords him the time to pursue other interests and activities is considered a flake.
A person who abandons a career in order to stay home and raise children is considered not to be living up to his potential-as if a job title and salary are the sole measure of human worth.
You’ll be told in a hundred ways, some subtle and some not, to keep climbing, and never be satisfied with where you are, who you are, and what you’re doing.
There are a million ways to sell yourself out, and I guarantee you’ll hear about them. To invent your own life’s meaning is not easy, but it’s still allowed, and I think you’ll be happier for the trouble.”
When the lockdown will be over, what will your reaction look like?
A. Happy to have the freedom to go out.
B. A part of you will regret if you didn’t make the best of this time.
That very part of you will be overjoyed if you made every moment count.
What are you spending your moments currently on?
The best way to lose up on everything, is by do it so much.
Break is much needed, like we are right now.
If all this holiday got over you will be sad.
Enjoy these holidays before holidays get over.
Your eighteenth birthday doesn’t come back. This isolation won’t come back. So won’t this peace.
God would listen to you, if you would listen to Him.
Happiness would come to you, if you decided to be happy.
Peace would be natural, if we never made space for anger.
We know what we want. We just need to decide.
It is not the lack of time that makes us do lesser work.
It is the lack of ability to not to waste time.
When we on what needs to change, change happens beautifully.
I will publish my article when I would have given my best.
I will apply for that interview when I am 100% ready.
I will talk to them when I am in a great frame of mind.
I will, when I…
This is an easy way to say you don’t have the time, the resources, the ability, and most importantly, the self confidence to create work.
Done is better than perfect, says Seth Godin.
Once you get into this groove of doing, doing excellent will automatically follow as the next right move.
We need to learn to walk first, if we want to win a marathon some day.
Yes. No.
Most people want the first answer to everything they do.
A few want the second one as well, especially in the absence of no response.
We all work in teams. Even if you are a solopreneur, you work with your clients, partners, etc.
And a great team is built by communication.
Here’s some of the best ways of communication:
- When you want to say yes: Say yes, and few more words to show your appreciation, such as: “Go ahead!”, “Good to go!” “Perfect!” What these words will do, is let them know that they are contributing meaningfully.
- When two or more people come together, they are bound to have different opinions, and we may want to say no as well. Here are some cardinal rules of saying no:
- Never use the word “no”. Rather suggest, how it could be done.
- Appreciate the parts that work. There is always something that works.
- Always keep reinforcing the fact that the person is great, the work needs changes and then we are good to go.
Here’s the reason of this blog, and why practising this difficult exercise of “not saying no” even when the answer is no, is super important:
A. Most people are already suffering at an emotional level. Even if you think they aren’t, still they are. One more disapproval, is too big a thing for an already tired mind.
B. The goal of any business, any team, any work, is to make things better. If we are making things better and making people worse, we are simply accumulating opposite of blessings into our business. That karma, has to come back some day.
C. People want to know the response. Learn to say no gracefully instead of giving no response. No communication is the best miscommunication.