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Forming relationships is beyond connecting with people from LinkedIn to WhatsApp.
Forming relationships is just being the genuine human being that you are, without ulterior motive of collaborations.
When you do so, just because you want to give, what you’ll receive will come to you manifold.
If there is pressure in your life, and you are worried about it, here is the healer:
This is how life should be.
This ain’t compromise, this ain’t adjusting on life, this is the truth.
And truth shall set you free. If you learn how to live with the truth, instead of letting it kill you.
Just because we are humans, we will thrive in accordance with living with other humans.
This would, in itself, make the process difficult because all humans are different.
However, if you learn to be easy, things are going to change – because you cared for the common good, you cared to make the other person feel good, and also you didn’t care to follow the angry zone of the world and marched to your own beat of ease and peace.
Neither too excited.
Nor too indifferent.
Just being. And listening as if we are wrong.
That would bring about the biggest changes in each conversation.
When you know who you are, you will always be undefeated.
When you know each of your thoughts have a spiral effect, you will always be undefeated.
When you know everything you want is waiting for you, you just need to be the recipient to receive it, you shall be undefeated.
We create a heaven and a hell in ourselves. Not because of what we do, rather because of what we allow ourselves to think about.
Think about.
Think about it.
Today I turned 29.
Damn! The number is so big! Yet why do I feel so young?
Or in other words, how did I get so lucky to be feeling so amazing while the world is conditioned to making us think that we should start with “settling”?
The answer is that I got insanely lucky to make some wonderful decisions. To choose to get out of company of people like whom I didn’t want to become, and to choose the company of rebels, oddballs and misfits — with a strange combination of my core values guard me daily.
However, the last one year had been a strange (and a blessed) one, with loads of mistakes and loads of learning coming along — which I have made an effort to summarize in 29 points below:
6. Kindness is superpower. Especially when it’s difficult to display it.
7. Gossiping will do more harm than goodness could do peace.
8. Working out with a personal trainer is game changing — in terms of your discipline, diet, follow-up, and of course how you look and feel within.
9. If you decide to walk at least 10,000 steps a day, you will!
10. Meditation is not a trick only for monks in the Himalayas. It is rather the only vaccination against depression.
11. A small hack for those on diet and travelling: Plain rice with curd and papad is a perfect meal. Saves from oily food of restaurants and provides all micro and macro nutrients.
12. In my former job, we went from our respective cities to the HO. In an evening, we went for a get-together to a Chinese restaurant; however I do not consume onion and garlic. So, we finally went to an Indian restaurant where I ordered khichdi, while others continued with having other oily food. Lesson: it’s okay to stand by your dharma in a matter of crisis. The only thing you will get is immense support.
13. When you’re misunderstood, you need to humbly stand for yourself.
14. Law of attraction works like magic. With a caveat — only if you’ve done the hard work. If I have never jumped into a pool and I wish to win a gold medal in Olympics next month, the only thing I deserve is a headache.
15. Not judging your family is the biggest gift to them. They are fighting a tough battle which we aren’t aware of.
16. Sleeping and waking up on time (and no screen time for 1 hour prior and after) will solve almost all your problems.
17. You’re becoming successful when outer success is coupled with smaller and lesser need to seek validation from others.
18. The intuition you have about people is stronger (and always truthful) than the image they’re trying to project. To rephrase, “Empathy cannot be taught. You’re either born with it or you aren’t.” — Ankur Warikoo
19. Like almost all other families, mine is also a dysfunctional one. Yet, their presence is the biggest therapy.
20. It’s okay to have a few or no friends than to have many who laugh at your progress.
21. I live a healthy lifestyle however I was hospitalized twice in last two years. Lying on that hospital bed, I realized this is simply my life shouting out loud to make a change.
22. Patience majnu, patience!
23. Consistent content creation will make you survive when everything else won’t. Even when you’re applying for a position with no qualification, experience of your content will take you to places.
24. Taking time to witness the sunrise is the best way to protect your (in)sanity.
25. In the last year I have been denied chances and been (almost) cursed by people who used to “treat me as their daughter” just because I followed an unconventional path being a female. However, I have also got respect and great work because of the same reason. External or internal validation. We get to choose either every single day.
26. No. No. Absolutely no. With kindness, bro!
27. People do what they know is the best. In 90% cases they aren’t intentional about it.
28. The world inside you needs to get out — through writing, creating videos, making drawings, dancing, singing — anything! It will keep you sane and the world will silently learn from your example.
29. The journey of going within will always settle things on the outside. Always.
That’s it, folks! 29 years, 29 lessons, loads of love from family — such an amazing time to be alive in!
Even if a single word made sense to you, I’ve done my job well! We are, after all, the stories we tell ourselves. Keep rocking folks, and I’ll see you tomorrow!
What is the place your thoughts wander towards, during meditation?
That is the place you need to address.
Most certainly it’s going to be difficult because that’s where the mind is seeking pleasure among productivity.
However, you don’t have any to be thinking of someone’s break up pics during meditation. Don’t you?
It is a strange world, of course.
And in this whole process of being open and sharing your thoughts with others, are we really safe and secure there?
Most people today are carrying an emotional load.
And if we choose to share ourselves with them, the advice that is going to come isn’t necessarily going to be useful, rather the opposite.
So how do we be open in the first place?
Simple. Communicate everything to God. I personally write a letter to God every single night before going to bed, and the way he helps is miraculous.
As weird as it may sound, it is the reason that strong people persist and are able to be the lighthouse.
Will you, starting today?
PS: No one will see it, you’ll be happy!
There’s a very close relationship of mine, where I do not feel the need to be around them anymore. We’ve been very well connected, to the extent that when I used to cry alone miles away, she used to have an intuition that something is wrong with me.
Then today, I had a conversation with a mutual friend, who said she has been pushing him to convince me to take a major life step, which I do not want to take.
Then it really hit me to connect the dots. Just because this person does not respect my life choices at an inner level, I had been consistently losing this feeling of being around them.
That is such a deep thing. Not because I was #betrayed. Okay maybe I was, however a deeper thing was that we always act out basis what is happening there inside.
There are no two sides. The white ultimately becomes light grey shortly which ends up becoming black over a period of time.
Trust is something you build when they’re not watching. Hard to build trust with someone if you don’t trust yourself.
I don’t have anger against them, I only have blessings for them to trust and respect themselves. Because it takes a broken person from inside to disrespect and not give trust to the other person’s choices.
The role of your work is to make someone else’s work easier.
If your work is built on letting others make their efforts, have we really made some good efforts?
Make an effort to reduce someone else’s efforts and their ease will serve as a blessing for you.
If others are not respecting you, that’s a feeling a lot of people don’t adore. Rather no one does.
A question to consider, before thinking of being respected by others:
“Do I really respect the way I am? Am I really proud of myself?”
Not the ego’s answer, the real answer.
Whatever the answer be (yes or no), you know what to do next.
Hint: Others were never in the picture.
What could a real conversation do to you?
Wish someone could tell you that you are capable of huge things?
Need real hot truth? Something that doesn’t hurt as well?
You will be served exactly that, however before that I want to ask you something.
What’s the point of letting others control your life?
Why do you need validation of that one person?
Is your life independent of others opinions?
Today’s video contains all about that. Enjoy!
Love is not just romantic love, in fact that is selfishness.
Love is, our natural nature.
Love is, the reason we all are here.
Elite Wiesel said, “The opposite of love is not hate, the opposite of love is indifference.”
So when you are indifferent towards a human being, you’re not giving them love.
Love, that you are made up of, you’re restricting yourself of it.
How will that create any goodness for you?
Starting with “to get something” is a dangerous place to be, because it makes you vulnerable.
Start with giving relentlessly.
Without the intention of receiving.
Without worrying about whether they’ll give you what you want.
Just with the intention of making their world better.
Why to do that, you may ask.
Because in order to let them decide freely and give it to you, you really need to let them know that you care. Like your parents did, and you’re ready to do anything for them, right?
There was not just one instance that drew me away from you.
I was there happily and honesty for you, even after you were rude to me once. And that turned into twice. And thrice. And ten times.
On the tenth time, I really understood that maybe my permanence in your life is not something you really value that much.
So I decided to remove my permanence from your life.
Not to teach you a lesson, I didn’t have that right anymore, had to cede that right without me being aware of it.
I removed myself because I was not able to respect myself every time I looked at the way you took me for granted.
So instead of begging at your door for the eleventh time, I knocked my own door for the first time.
And wow!!! My heart opened space for me to blossom, like it had been signaling me for years.
Thank you, you, for removing my permanence from your life. Thank you.
Isn’t it okay to appreciate someone when they fail?
A lot of people feign their success on social media because sadly we’d all been appreciated in childhood only when we succeeded.
Maybe along with
•bringing value
•engaging with right people
•making our mark
“accepting and appreciating people” for where they are in their journey, should also be one of the criteria for people to come online.
Every SINGLE one of us who has ever been successful, knows the failures that went behind it.
Appreciate those failures in someone else might give you relief as well, for being the emotional support of someone when perhaps you didn’t have it when you needed it.
If someone goes out to people and tells them to buy from them straight away, no one will.
If someone else builds their brand and then showcases their products/services, then people would buy from them.
Then there are the third category of people.
Who make change happen by their very presence.
The people, when their ego is attacked, identify it and get back to their awesome state immediately.
As difficult it may be, be That Person.
If someone goes out to people and tells them to buy from them straight away, no one will.
If someone else builds their brand and then showcases their products/services, then people would buy from them.
Then there are the third category of people.
Who make change happen by their very presence.
The people, when their ego is attacked, identify it and get back to their awesome state immediately.
As difficult it may be, be That Person.