You’re just one video / one book away from a better mood.
You’re just one chat away from a worse mood.
And you’re just one pause of silence away from discovering the plethora of joy within you.
Which one will you start with today?
Tag: power
When parents force their grown up kids to do something, kids feel pressured.
When kids finally take their plunge, they feel guilty.
And I want you to know – in either situations, do what is right. It never goes out of style. When you do that, you don’t need to feel guilty. Do your best. And then trust yourself.
Have you tried drinking plain cold milk? Without sugar or chocolate?
If yes, you know it has a calming effect.
Alternatively, if we drink warm milk without sugar, it is kind of weird. We need to add sugar to make it a bit better.
That is how life is. When we are chilled out, we are sweet naturally. When we are hot or angry, we have to make efforts to get sweetness.
We decide, which milk to be.
Love is like a plant, it is supposed to blossom.
In the initial years, it requires a lot of care to grow. If we are careful about that for at least a decade, it will automatically nurture itself later. Then it would become the strong tree, that gives shade and does not require much of nurturing.
But if we don’t nurture it in the start, it does wither. And slowly goes away.
Coming to the question: Does love die? Of course it does. When we don’t nurture the first few years with care and trust, be it in any relationship, nothing is left. If it is a relationship we cannot run away from, such as family, we learn to accept them – but there is hardly any connection. If there is a relationship that we can go away from – a partner, friend, business relationship – the best we could do for them is bless them!
Love, btw, begins with yourself. But that’s for another day.
1. Think in questions.
2. Don’t send that email.
3. Surround yourself with the right books.
4. Workouts are therapy.
5. Dance, baby!
I recently conducted an AMA on Instagram about the best thing that had happened to people in 2021 so far.
The responses were surprising.
While I had expected people to say things like got a new job, promotion, etc., most responses went with:
1. Started prioritising myself.
2. Taking care of what I want.
3. Took up yoga to for myself.
4. Moved to a new city.
5. Learnt to live on my own.
And so on and so forth.
Loved it! When people take care of themselves, they are able to take care of others more. Which isn’t true vice versa.
Looking forward to having more of them and seeing people get more powerful.
Creativity is a weird companion.
Exactly 24 hours back, I was bursting with ideas to write blogs on.
Right now, I don’t know what to write.
Seems like creativity has been infidel to me and left me. Except that isn’t. Because creativity is a process. If you show up, it always does.
If you are reading this blog post till here, you know that creativity has kept up. Because I kept my promise of writing this post.
Creativity is always loyal. If we are.
I have been creating content for more than five years now.
It was only yesterday that I realised that I have finally arrived. I wrote a post on LinkedIn that said:
“Changing WhatsApp DPs often is a sign of an unstable mind.”
Lo and behold, what trolling comments I got yesterday! My first troll series 🙂
And the best part is, there were bigger number of likes for that post. That is the nature of goodness. It is always in bigger numbers, just that it doesn’t need any evidence to back itself off.
On that note, if you don’t feel offended, let me ask you: How often do you change your WhatsApp DPS?
Someone said something mean to you. Someone dear to you.
A friend asked you to work for free for them, something for which you charge in six figures.
You did your 150% in a job and still your manager found flaws in your work.
All these things seem mean. And they are, undoubtedly.
The one on the other side has taken an extreme position without thinking of what you are going through or what efforts you would have put in.
They shouldn’t have done this. I understand.
However, the reality of life is that people will continue doing things or saying things that are mean or not tilted in our favour. That has been happening since eternity and will continue happening.
Will you allow yourself to be hurt every single time?
Will you allow them to take your mental space every single time?
Will you never show compassion towards yourself like you show towards others?
My friend, you are so powerful that you can bless even those who not only say mean things, rather are conspiring against you. Just don’t allow that trash to be accumulated in your mind and see the difference!
It will take hard work. It will require patience. It will ask you to be the best of yourself.
But being the worst version of yourself by getting affected wasn’t the best way to live your life either! Isn’t it?
I was once in a conversation where an app developer for an android phone was listening to customer concerns. The app was a skill-development learning app.
One of the customers asked for the app being released in Apple App store, as they had an iPhone, while the app was available only on the Google Play Store.
The app developer remarked, “You own the iPhone man, you don’t need this skill development app.”
This statement made me think.
The app developer was right.
Not because I’m an iPhone user for almost six years now.
Not because I have something against the Android users.
Rather because Apple is indeed a statement.
It is not just a brand, it is a brand for those who have the money to afford it AND the personality to match to it.
It’s almost you can catch a rich non-Apple user and not-so-rich Apple user by the values they stand for. Yes there are exceptions to the rule where status game kicks in, however, most of Android users and Apple users have a lifestyle that defines their choice of brand.
For example, people with super expensive Android phones are the ones that despise iPhone the most. Whereas, iPhone users earning a mediocre income have nothing against Android users, because they know what they want is what their phone has.
Why are we talking about it right now?
Well, you know if you know!
Someone left a bike like this outside our building.
We leave our imprints wherever we go.
And it becomes a karma.
Imagine how many people are going to give opposite of blessings to such tiny aspects of what you do.
Earn blessings, not opposite of those.
When I had initially come home during lockdown, I had thought I would finally be happy when I will go back to Delhi.
I had thought I will be happy when I get my freedom, but it isn’t denied to me here either.
I had thought I would have good places to shop, but life is anyway being lived in the same pyjama since eternity:)
I had thought my parents wanted to stop me here forever, but they don’t, which makes me live here happily.
Don’t know when going to Delhi will be possible like before, but I am now starting to be happy with my dysfunctional family. Especially since opportunities to work and make money are infinite with zero compromise on my daily power naps and evening walks and morning workouts and what not!!!
We wait for an idea of the future hoping for things to get better, not realising it is getting created here and now – with what we think and what we do.
Whatever you do, others draw an example from.
Whatever you do, becomes the barometer for others to function.
Whatever you do, determines your state of mind.
Remember this the next time you’re going to take a step your intuition refuses to.
This year, I’m doing something different: creating habits instead of goals. While I do have some goals at the back of my mind, they’re all effective when we build systems around them.
So here are mine:
1. Create one IG reel + one LinkedIn post daily. And write a Twitter thread every Tuesday about lessons from the book I’m reading.
2. Sleep by 9:30 PM. Daily.
3. Have daily habits of reading and meditation, and check my chart daily at EOD.
The only person between you and your happiness and success is you, and let good habits nudge you away from the old you.
Happy New Year folks! I’d love to listen to your habits, DM me on IG/Twitter/ LinkedIn with the handle nishthagehija26.
See you then, and 2021 will be the best year of your life!
In the last week of 2020, I removed the email app from my phone.
Little had I expected, my screen time went down drastically.
So, going to continue that in 2021 as well. Even if there is an extreme news of me making it to the best seller list, I’ll be able to enjoy it when I am peacefully sitting in a place to read that email. Quick notifications aren’t a great place to celebrate.
Maybe will try that will WhatsApp soon:)
I read somewhere that pain is just pain. Someone else’s intensity of pain doesn’t reduce your pain.
While most people may agree, I tend to disagree.
Someone else’s intensity of pain might be different from yours. And if we are unable to acknowledge that, it makes us more selfish and less empathetic.
If we are in pain and still can acknowledge someone else is in pain, we are truly a caring human being.
Do you often see yourself huddling with waste thoughts?
You decided to stay focused, and five minutes later you are scrolling endlessly?
Happens with you?
We would have read hundreds of texts and literature on how to change that, and of all those, one has been the most effective: To always keep listening to motivational audios or read such books. I personally have started doing it morning and evening, and the results have been way better.
Now stretching it to four hours a day while working on mundane activities.
Not because it will give me motivation to act, rather because we are accustomed to act in a manner consistent with what we hear and whom we spend time with. Since what we hear and whom we spend time with isn’t something wonderful in today’s world, why not start with doing it on purpose?
Any habit that we form on purpose is what we reap benefits of without waiting for. Always.
I almost forgot to write today’s blog post.
And now, while sleeping, reminded of that.
So, what is it about today?
Hmm, I’m thinking of charging for consulting as well over the call. Okay, the client is going to pay me beautifully when the work starts, however why do I behave like a fool and offer 2.5 hours of free consulting?
Nishtha, grow up!
No one will value you if you don’t do that to yourself.
That said, the last leg of brainstorming with the client is left, will seek guidance from God in meditation early morning tomorrow, if it is right to charge or be modest if the contract is already yours.
Chalo, good night peops!
O yes.
It is weird sometimes.
People behave in strange ways.
They act as if they don’t care.
And more than anything else, they tell you that you matter however, that is the last thing you see.
So, what to do?
Take care of yourself buddy!
The advice is real, the execution in takes all the effort. And if you are you, there is no one that can shake you.
Anyone can “get it done” by working late nights, being on phone 24*7 and “hustling” too hard.
The real hard work is sleeping on time, knowing when to disconnect from the devices (yes the devices that make you money), and not push too hard and let your boredom make things happen.
The smart ones choose Option 2.
The ones who want to look “smart” keep writing on Internet about it – because, busy!
What’s the point of living life if you don’t even know where your day passes or your body has become what even a senior citizen’s body isn’t or in this endless consumption, you didn’t even remember a line of what you consumed.
Slow down is the new fasttrack.