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You will feel whole.
You will feel better.
You will feel you belong.
You will feel you matter.
And you do.
The problem is not you feeling bad or empty. The problem is you not acknowledging it. When you do, you immediately take the dagger from the emptiness to yourself. And then you begin.
It’s a feeling that just doesn’t go.
Or sometimes I mix it up with my introversion and love for work.
This is not for likes or comments, just to reveal a wall that’s been hiding.
And I do end up breaking it sometimes, only to come to the stones that built it up in the first place.
That I want to go to the hall and chit chat with my family.
That I want to be optimistic along with sharing that feeling of emptiness within.
That I know that it’s okay to be okay when it’s not okay.
Yet I do none of these.
Because anything that is not stomach ache, fever or diabetes is not a disease – that our society and upbringing has taught us.
Perhaps because they would want to hide it under anger, like everything else.
Perhaps because it requires the need to acknowledge your own inner needs to be able to acknowledge them in other.
Yet on the other side of the tunnel I see hope.
And I trust that hope like sunshine.
And somehow we will manage to come out of it.
I don’t know how to end this, yet this is not the end. For sure.
You know if it is right or not.
Wrong does not require efforts. Right does.
Efforts or nothing. We make a choice every single minute.
The light is always there.
Beyond the clouds when the flight takes off.
After the dawn.
Inside a book.
Everywhere there is the light.
We just need to let it know that it is important. It is needed. It is powerful.
The most important person in a relationship is You.
We build trust by doing what we do for them when they are not around. That builds respect.
Respect is what we do for them when what they do is not what we want to do, yet we do it because we love and respect them.
Read the above line twice. It is important because this is why most relationships falter.
It is a disease not restricted to a few people.
Rather, there are very few people who don’t suffer from this.
Well, what to do if you want to be one of those few people?
a. Being kind even when you have the right to be unkind is an unprecedented advantage.
b. Replacing “you’re an idiot” with “I think there is a miscommunication” lets the other person know that they’re not unwanted.
c. More than anything else, when we move around the world with the backstory that we are the hero and our role is to make others rise, instead of being the villain who wants everyone to fall down.
Split personality disorder is real and more rampant than we ever thought. What we need is a decision to have a personality we would be proud of.
And to live to that personality when things inevitably don’t go vanilla.
One of the best learnings that covid brought to us is not to put all your eggs in one basket.
Warren Buffet has been saying it for years.
Not only for finances, also for our emotions and sources of income.
More than anything else, we have learnt never to depend on external validation (malls, restaurants, movies,etc.) for making us feel.
Will they support you is not the right question.
The right question is, will you support yourself?
The limit is the quality of content and people you surround yourself with.
The limit is the books you don’t read.
The limit is the empathy you don’t give to yourself.
The limit is the chats you have while you shouldn’t.
The limit is the DMs you don’t send.
The limit is the smiles you knew you could spread.
The limit is your decisions.
1. Watering plants makes you feel humbler and happier.
2. Your parents need nothing other than your presence.
3. Cleaning with wiper is both abs and back workout, sweeping the floor is a great cardio.
4. Home cooked chocolate cake is super delicious.
5. Life is wonderful without TV serials!
To face failures is great.
To share it is greater, because you are being vulnerable.
To share it with those who will make fun of it and perhaps treat you with disrespect – shows you need to change your circle.
“What if this fails?” Everyone asks this question.
What is someone shows you it’s possible?
What if someone shows you what all is working?
What if someone tells you that you have done it before, so repeating the impossible is possible?
What if that “someone” is the one in the mirror?
There are going to be a lot of times when the only person standing in your favour is you. And if you are strong from within, you will know it’s possible.
Will you? Stand for yourself? Every single day?
Rejection.
No one wants to be rejected.
Yet we do get rejected all the time – in relationships that didn’t work out, in jobs where we didn’t find our happiness, in childhood when we were scolded for no fault of ours.
It’s like someone inserting a scalpel into your eyes without giving you the anaesthesia.
Even the thought pricks a hole in the heart.
Yet it’s impossible to find a successful person who was not rejected. Not one ever.
Rejection does not mean we were wrong or we were not accepted.
It simply means we were not aligned.
Relationship rejection – love yourself now.
Job rejection – your work you love is shouting out loud at you to be noticed.
Childhood rejection – don’t do the same to your kids (and your parents).
Rejection never stops anyone. Unless one is ready to be stopped.
You get to decide.
We think we know everything.
Maybe we are right.
Until we are not.
The best way to challenge our assumptions is to start knowing more.
To know more means you don’t know everything. Which is a beautiful place to be.
What if we challenge our assumptions? Not our beliefs and values, rather our assumptions.
And the virtuous cycle continues!
Maybe someone could get better at your work and take over your job.
Maybe someone could take away your best friend or your sister away from you.
Maybe the colleagues who respect you so much would stop doing it.
It looks scary to lose what you have and where you are at.
How about this:
You will have to give up everything external one day. Why not build an irreplaceable internal resource?
The goal is to get up from that “mood off” as quickly as possible.
Not by suppressing it.
Rather, by:
– explaining yourself
– talking with yourself
– telling yourself that you can’t trade your happiness for someone else’s actions.
Inside is the way out.
Numbers
Followers
Salary
Likes and comments.
Four circles or three arrows in your car brand.
Centralised AC.
Chimney that doesn’t make any noise.
Success – we have measured it by metrics that world has taught us to.
Maybe it isn’t success. Maybe success is the way you really want.
There’s nothing wrong with material things, if you really want them.
If that’s not what really makes you happy, then we really need to live and grow by our own version of happiness.
The best way to be liked by others is to love yourself first.
The best way to bring that change is to be the change, as Gandhi said.
The best way to change the world is to change yourself first.
We probably know all the answers. What we perhaps need to do, is to tell yourself you are the answer.
Anger is something that serves none of us.
Why we do it, is like scolding a child. Won’t work.
Why not ask yourself: “How can I be calmer and under self control in these situations?”
We get the life, we sign up for.
It may so happen that a well wisher has a totally different opinion about your life than what you have.
The thing is if you stand by yourself and you believe in your idea and you believe in the fact that you have explored all possible options and then taken this step because you’re proud of it, then my friends please do not get carried away by someone else’s opinion.
Your life has to be lived by you.
Your standards of happiness are something you should stand for, instead of expecting someone else to create those standards of happiness in themselves so that you could live by them.
That is a very very dangerous place to be.
The goal is to be so internally fulfilled that even though you may have time, you don’t want to scroll Instagram.
The goal is to respect your introversion and work in a team simultaneously.
The goal is to look at what’s working in others versus where they lack, as this is what a loved one does (with some occasional nudges here and there).
The goal is to have an understanding. The understanding that fortunately comes from within and through reflection, not external factors including OTT or social media.