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We all have been given this free time.
A lot of free time.
Time to reflect, time to think, time to be the best.
Yet amidst all this there is one most important thing that no influencer has ever told you: to be self respecting.
Self – respect. It means to be in the zone of loving yourself. To know who you are. To be just the best version of you.
It may sound repetitive. To those who don’t practice it.
To those who do, it’s life changing.
Some productivity tips, not season specific or specific for place you’re working from.
Work every time, you just need to decide.
1. Don’t receive a call on the first time, unless it’s scheduled. It turns out, when you will call them back an hour or two later, the “important” work would’ve been resolved. So would be your time be saved.
2. Take a nap post lunch, do NOT engage in phone after lunch. Will make you happier, and of course, more productive.
3. One minute, every hour – take a break. Move, or sit still. However, just a break.
4. Have your goals for tomorrow, tonight itself. Your mornings will be saved from internet in the morning.
5. After having the goals for tonight, tell everything to God. Everything – good or bad, meetings, aha moments, etc., during the day – give it to Him. Surrender all good as a gratitude to Him, surrender all that is not good, to him to handle. You will be mesmerized at how your life starts falling in place.
That’s it folks! I could write a ten more; however doing less makes chances of execution better.
Why don’t your efforts come to fruition when you try too hard, ever thought about it?
What happens when the result of your effort does not match what it should be?
Simple.
At a core level, we don’t believe that we deserve that success.
Why don’t we believe that? Because we are probably hanging around with:
• same people
• same habits
Which ones are holding you back?
I was talking with a male friend, who was sharing his story of how he did not want to pursue career of his parents’ choice.
He shared how at a point of time he was frustrated at taking money from his parents, so he decided to switch what from what his parents wanted to do, to something non-conventional.
While he shared this resistance to take money from his parents, he added: “Men are more likely to have this urge to be out on their own, and not take money from parents.”
Dude what do you think of women?
I have never taken money from my parents in the last five years.
How can you do this gender discrimination when you don’t know how women think like?
That’s what the feminist inside of me wanted to tell him. And he would have heard it and even said sorry perhaps.
Yet I decided to stay shut up and not say a word in retaliation.
Here’s why:
• World is not changed by anger. Even if you’re right, anger dilutes your stance.
• He was not wrong, he just hasn’t adopted the mindset of how an independent woman would like to be treated. Maybe he is showing that he considers himself to be “the man” who has the right to extraordinarily, so be it. It should not lower my respect for him as an individual, rather it should tell me how to deal with him going forward.
• Most importantly, my father who is the most important man in my life, treats me and my sisters with the best love and respect he could ever give. That’s what is one of my greatest assets.
Be grateful for what you have, don’t walk out in the world with a sword in your hand.
And change the world with your existence, not with your excitement.
The things that affect you, are the things that control you.
The things that control you, are the things that decide your course of action.
The things that decide your course of action, should be something that needs approval from your happiness.
Now, think and decide: what’s something that’s affecting you right now?
Are you happy with it?
If not, why are you allowing it to affect it?
If you ever feel you can trust others, maybe there’s actually something to change.
Not with them, perhaps with your relationship with the person in the mirror.
Our relationships with others are simply a reflection of how we treat ourselves.
Since charity begins at home, so does trust begin with yourself.
Surprisingly, as you begin to develop that relationship with yourself, no one ever breaks your trust.
Maybe that’s true, that no one understands you.
Maybe even this is true, that this has been going on for long.
While this has been going on for long, why do you think it has been taking so long?
The answer lies in sitting back and reflecting. Maybe we need to sit back and start getting honest with the person in the mirror.
If you don’t know in which direction you’re walking, isn’t it going to be pretty impossible to reach your destination?
Right now, just right now, sit back and reflect on your life in the present, before moving on to the next distraction? If you have a minute for yourself…
If you wanna know what’s your problem, just try spending some time with yourself in solitude. That’s the real game.
All your weaknesses will come to the surface.
All your problems will come out with a revelation: that the source of them is common.
And when the source of that is common, the solution has to one.
What is that one, has to be decided and implemented by the one reading this right now.
Implement. Execute.
If success is taking too much time for you to unfold, it’s not because you are incapable.
It’s perhaps because somewhere, inside your head, you still don’t believe that you deserve this success. And since you don’t believe it, your belief always comes true.
We talk about self confidence.
What about self confidence for success? When you have it, you will know it will move mountains.
Bonus Point: Self confidence comes from doing the work.
Dressing up like someone else.
Talking like someone else.
Talking to be liked by someone else, even though you want to be silent.
Going to disco because everyone (other than you) feels it’s cool.
Posting that content which “they” will like.
The list is endless, my friend. However, your life does have an end. The sad news is, you don’t know when.
Then waiting doesn’t make sense, right?
If there were a workshop where you were taught how to create your future, versus an astrologer offering you horoscopes, where would you go?
If you are like most people, you’d definitely love to go to the astrologer.
If you are not like most people and are still reading, use the following parameters to predict your future accurately:
A. If all that you do is for uplifting yourself and making your life better, your future looks bright.
B. If along with that, you ALWAYS have a big goal of making other people great and rise higher, there is nothing that can stop you.
O, btw, anyone going to the astrologer?
Sometimes it is the mistake of others.
Sometimes someone else’s mistake may cost you a lot of years or maybe even your career.
Sometimes a whole lifetime is not enough to rectify what others did.
The question is,
“How are you going to live the rest of your life?”
If blaming them could help, it would have already helped you out.
If blaming them couldn’t help, let’s think of a different story.
Starting today.
Sometimes, go against what you normally do.
Sometimes, smile at the person who irks you.
Sometimes, bless the person who has caused you the maximum pain.
Sometimes, just let people fly away with the credit.
Sometimes, sleep earlier than usual.
Sometimes, skip scrolling Instagram.
Sometimes, sit back and enjoy your life at home.
Sometimes, let others know their opinions matter.
Sometimes, just life be, instead of “doing” life.
To feel bad, you don’t have to do anything much. You just have to do nothing and you will start feeling bad, just by being in the environment we all are living in today.
On the contrary, to feel good requires attention.
You need to take care of your mindset, what goes inside your head in the morning, what goes inside your head throughout the day, and most importantly, how you talk with yourself.
Feeling good requires efforts.
Feeling bad requires a ton of efforts, later on.
You get to decide.
The way you treat yourself…
The way you check phone when you should be sitting silent…
The way you allow yourself to be replaceable…
The way there are people on social media deciding your life…
The way you allow someone else to be an influencer and not your own self…
…is this the right way you should be treating yourself?
Would you treat your most loved one like that and take pride in that?
Getting bored?
Or getting tired?
Or not getting recognised?
Or not getting applauded?
Or not being noticed?
Bored is a feeling we seldom feel.
If we do, it’s a great one to move yourself inside, in this world of too much outside.