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Someone left a bike like this outside our building.
We leave our imprints wherever we go.
And it becomes a karma.
Imagine how many people are going to give opposite of blessings to such tiny aspects of what you do.
Earn blessings, not opposite of those.
LOL technically means Laugh Out Loud.
However, I use it as lessons of life.
So this is how we will use them whenever I want to share life lessons
That’s all.
Wish you a great time, wherever you are 🙂
January is the month of meditation.
Especially the day of 18th January – where all of our community members gather together and have a combined meditation, for throughout the day. At least for 8 hours of the day.
You know what, for the first 30 minutes, you are trying to meditate.
For the rest of the day, meditation flows through you 🙂
Imagine what would happen if we did this every single day?
Sometimes we will never know why.
Sometimes we will never know why.
That is the explanation I have for you.
What I do know is: When things don’t happen as we wanted them to, always something great comes out of them. Always.
Have faith in yourself.
If you won’t, who will?
Some life lessons that helped me today, might do that to you as well:
Remember how I wrote about a neighbourhood Uncle a few days back, and how he used to address me Moti?
Well, today morning we bumped into each other again, and what followed was magical! (Okay, not magical, yet surprising :D)
Chalo, the essence of this post was that now both that Uncle and me are away from our “addressing” me blatantly issues to the usual ones 🙂
Aal is well!
When I had initially come home during lockdown, I had thought I would finally be happy when I will go back to Delhi.
I had thought I will be happy when I get my freedom, but it isn’t denied to me here either.
I had thought I would have good places to shop, but life is anyway being lived in the same pyjama since eternity:)
I had thought my parents wanted to stop me here forever, but they don’t, which makes me live here happily.
Don’t know when going to Delhi will be possible like before, but I am now starting to be happy with my dysfunctional family. Especially since opportunities to work and make money are infinite with zero compromise on my daily power naps and evening walks and morning workouts and what not!!!
We wait for an idea of the future hoping for things to get better, not realising it is getting created here and now – with what we think and what we do.
You must have seen people partying on the beach on Instagram.
Or making teddy bears of snow.
And making you feel like it is your life only that is at loss.
Here’s a silent truth:
Someone I know personally posted a vacay pic of theirs, with a thoughtful caption and how happy they were truly being in this flow state of life. However, I know they are going through a really, really tough time. A super tough time.
It is great that they took a break, no doubts about that.
But here is what I want you to consider:
Choose the form of happiness you want to live in. And the coolest of the coolest people, who are your (real) role models, they hardly share their vacay pics online with a “success-filled” caption. Because they know that real happiness is the remaining 350 days as well, when we are not on a holiday.
Read the above line again.
For yourself.
Ten things we should never say to women:
And the NO-NO of all, speaking in a loud, dominating voice.
It breaks my heart to see that a LOT of educated, well-respected in corporate lives men do a lot of these. They won’t be able to control the women who want to live on their own terms, however, only end up losing their own respect.
Lesson: Chill, bro! Use the big thing in your skull called the brain.
I had watched Big Boss Season 1.
After that, my intellect saved me forever.
However recently, I came across a Big Boss clip on Instagram, that made me think deeply.
Here’s how it goes:
The contestants are being allowed to meet their family. When Jasmin’s parents come, they force her to play her own game alone, and not with Aly. Aly was her friend and they both fell in love during the show. They show a slightly negative vibe towards her friend.
Maybe her parents are against her marriage with him, we don’t know.
But the way they told this to her made me think of two things:
I feel for you sista.
This too, shall pass.
Honestly, I do not give any damn about her relationship with Aly because we don’t know what would happen when they both go out. But not making friends and playing alone is not how the game of life is played.
If you don’t get out of yourself, you’ve lost already.
Here’s how we waste time (and where we shouldn’t):
All the influencers you follow, none of them were born with the followers they have.
Also, none of them is Shah Rukh Khan’s kid.
So, when you feel that they got “lucky”
When you believe that you just can’t “get there”
When you think others had privileges “you don’t have”
When self doubts starts encircling you
When success seems possible only by magic,
Remember that…
Everyone started at zero. Everyone.
If the ones who made it had something special, they had this:
And many more pieces of the puzzle that get arranged once you actually step into the pool.
Start from 0. You did so in school. See where you are now. Start again, for a different curriculum of life you want to be living for.
I did a sin.
I opened the fridge today.
Is it really a sin?
It is, if you have to put something back and you have parents that trust you to the moon and back:)
Lol.
So my Mom saw me putting a steel dabba of halwa back into the fridge, when she remarked, if you are unable to do it, let it be, I’ll do it.
Yes Mom, I’ve lived most of my adult life away from home. Gone through heartbreaks without you being aware of it. Living in the capital of the country figuring out life. And lo and behold, I won’t have the awareness to put a dabba into the fridge. Such fun.
Anyway, yes parents are suffering and trying their best, but, sometimes you have to put a virtual gulab jamun in your mouth and stay silent.
For your sake.
And if you still want to take some action, I wrote about it in the newsletter I sent today. You can read it here.
If we want to talk about the pains we went through, the list is endless.
And I understand, the pains were and are very real.
If we want to talk about the high moments of our life, the list is still endless.
Of course, we did work really hard to get there.
However, these are the extreme sides of human existence. They are somewhat the result of our inability to control the end results.
So is there something that we can control?
Yes, our happiness.
Happiness doesn’t mean celebration in an unfortunate event. It however does mean that you will stay stable and calm come what may.
When we are going through that break up, we can be happy because there were a few good things that came out of that relationship.
When we’ve lost that loved one, yes it is difficult, but wherever they are right now, would they be happy seeing you, an apple of their eye, suffer like this?
When we are going through lives’ biggest setbacks, do we have any idea that our nightmare is someone else’s biggest dream come true?
Perspective is what makes the entire difference.
This doesn’t make your suffering little. But the people for whom you are suffering would love to see you happy. Be happy for them.
And always remember, your happiness isn’t a sign of you not loving them. Your happiness is a sign of you loving them despite they had to go to another journey…
This year, I’m doing something different: creating habits instead of goals. While I do have some goals at the back of my mind, they’re all effective when we build systems around them.
So here are mine:
1. Create one IG reel + one LinkedIn post daily. And write a Twitter thread every Tuesday about lessons from the book I’m reading.
2. Sleep by 9:30 PM. Daily.
3. Have daily habits of reading and meditation, and check my chart daily at EOD.
The only person between you and your happiness and success is you, and let good habits nudge you away from the old you.
Happy New Year folks! I’d love to listen to your habits, DM me on IG/Twitter/ LinkedIn with the handle nishthagehija26.
See you then, and 2021 will be the best year of your life!
In the last week of 2020, I removed the email app from my phone.
Little had I expected, my screen time went down drastically.
So, going to continue that in 2021 as well. Even if there is an extreme news of me making it to the best seller list, I’ll be able to enjoy it when I am peacefully sitting in a place to read that email. Quick notifications aren’t a great place to celebrate.
Maybe will try that will WhatsApp soon:)
One question that I get asked a lot is:
“How were you able to make your career switch? Did you not face any challenges? Did you fail? How did you bounce back?”
This blog, is an attempt to answer that.
Well, to give you a background, I am a Chartered Accountant by profession. Worked in the corporate for five years, and kept writing on the side because I loved it.
In 2020, I quit my job and took up writing full-time.
How was it possible?
Before how, let me address the question of why.
I used to work as an Internal Auditor. Which meant on any given day my high rating would be a function of how many errors and how huge errors I detected. It, in turn, meant that someone else had to screw up badly in order for me to perform greatly.
And I kid you not, I was great at my work.
Sometimes people were fired because of me, sometimes people were issued warning memos, and almost every single time someone else’s annual rating was adversely affected.
With all this going on, I was not very happy. If wherever you go, you are welcomed at a superficial level yet at a deeper level people wished I didn’t come or went away quickly. The money that we earn brings blessings. For me, it came at the cost of many people’s career. My career, no matter how legit, was someone else’s nightmare.
And with my love for writing, it was just nudging me daily to make that move.
So here’s how I quit my job and made a career switch:
Simple. That’s it.
I did not know this would be the process, I just kept creating content without any direction of where it would go, and soon it did lead to some good places.
As far as problems that were concerned, I solved them the way I solve all my problems – by surrendering them to God. The results are never short of epic.
Try it out! And reach out to me to tell how it was 🙂
Much of our lives is the usual boring stuff.
Extreme events – such as a job promotion, getting your dream client, getting that deal, your first pair of Nike’s, no matter how eventful – they’re extremely rare.
Which brings us to the boring stuff, and make the best of it.
How to make the best of it – no one can answer that for you, only you can.
But if you keep making the best of each boring day – trust me, you will have ideas to an extent of just extreme events.
Only one caveat: Keep working on your habits and the usual mundane stuff of doing the right things while watching someone else’s happening Insta feed.
I read somewhere that pain is just pain. Someone else’s intensity of pain doesn’t reduce your pain.
While most people may agree, I tend to disagree.
Someone else’s intensity of pain might be different from yours. And if we are unable to acknowledge that, it makes us more selfish and less empathetic.
If we are in pain and still can acknowledge someone else is in pain, we are truly a caring human being.
I almost forgot to write today’s blog post.
And now, while sleeping, reminded of that.
So, what is it about today?
Hmm, I’m thinking of charging for consulting as well over the call. Okay, the client is going to pay me beautifully when the work starts, however why do I behave like a fool and offer 2.5 hours of free consulting?
Nishtha, grow up!
No one will value you if you don’t do that to yourself.
That said, the last leg of brainstorming with the client is left, will seek guidance from God in meditation early morning tomorrow, if it is right to charge or be modest if the contract is already yours.
Chalo, good night peops!