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O yes.
It is weird sometimes.
People behave in strange ways.
They act as if they don’t care.
And more than anything else, they tell you that you matter however, that is the last thing you see.
So, what to do?
Take care of yourself buddy!
The advice is real, the execution in takes all the effort. And if you are you, there is no one that can shake you.
I want to say something to you:
Always be nice.
Even with the ones who are playing and plotting against you.
Because everyone is an irreplaceable parent or son or daughter of someone.
Everyone is fighting a battle we don’t know of.
And, we don’t know which one will be our last one.
Today there’s nothing much to say.
Lost a close Uncle. Had met him two days after Diwali, last month. Little did anyone of us know that this was the last one.
While we were cordial and cool in our last meeting, I do realise that we don’t know which one is going to be our last meeting.
Lesson: Treat every meeting with people like the last one. We never know.
These life lessons are deep, and never shared.
Here you go:
PS: Number 6 — Diamonds are formed under pressure 🙂
Negative things about getting a positive life
1. Honesty is an expensive gift. Don’t expect it from cheap people.
– Warren Buffet
2. When people show you who they are, believe them.
– Maya Angelou
3. The best way to deal with corporate politics is to live by and speak your truth. It will make you undefeatable.
4. People will play games against you. Worry not, for they not know against whom are they playing the real game.
5. Don’t trust your extremely good or bad moods. What happens in the middle – your intuitions, people’s behaviours, what you want to do – that is the real stuff.
Some small reflections about life, that were sadly not as positive, however, very important to inch towards positivity and not being affected by the negativity of others.
Two months back, I had lost a high-paying client.
Though there was a good lot of other work from other clients as well, this loss did affect me – at least emotionally.
So one morning at around 8:45 am, I was sitting in my room and pondering, when I saw my father. He was being his normal self, making the wick for the diya, and lighting it up with ease and gratitude.
And that moment – in a moment of nothingness, something happened.
I don’t know what, but something just hit me!
Today I came across a wonderful story on LinkedIn, wanted to share the lesson from it here.
A guy had gone to a tea stall, where he saw a father struggling to get his daughter admitted into a top college.
The man had worked really hard, and the daughter had gotten into a top engineering college. More so, he was willing to work harder to support her through college.
So this guy who posted on LinkedIn offered his help, and after few minutes of helping him out, also offered this Uncle to keep his phone number. Now he will help Uncle and his daughter.
Which brings me to hunger.
When we are hungry in life, we help others in satisfying their hunger.
When we are happy in life, we help others get happier.
When we have risen from nothing, we love to help others rise up.
However, only the people without entitlement can do it.
Only the people who love hard work can help others in theirs. The ones who feel they can work less and get done with, don’t know what lies ahead of them.
Only the people who believe they “have it all” actually have it all. As the 1984 Apple commercial states: “They push the human race forward.”
So, are we pushing the human race forward? Or are we pushing ourselves backward by letting entitlement get in?
“Do you have a passport?”
“I’m so sorry I bought it on Kindle, I don’t have the free download link.”
“Premium economy is a wonderful upgrade from Economy class.”
“You like this jacket? This is from Zara.”
“The beachside hotels in Goa are really lavish!”
Some of the lines I get to hear – because I live a minimalist lifestyle.
Instead of feeling bad about it, I am often amused at how people judge someone for not going out or repeating the same pair of shoes. Which in fact, also, allows me to aware of not to judge people based on how less they have. It may just be a choice.
(PS: On a lighter note, when people of Delhi go to Mumbai, they have to take off this judgement.)
To answer the above quetions:
Yes
I only buy legit books, because being an author myself, I know that a lot of people’s bread and butter is dependent on books.
Yes, thanks for this. I have travelled in Premium Economy. Next time, please boast about Business Class:)
Yes baby, I read “ZARA” written over there. I was being genuinely kind.
Of course, enjoy your Goa. I will enjoy it my way without documenting it:)
Firstly, judging isn’t right, because we never know what they are going through.
Secondly, even if they don’t have what you have, we don’t get big or small by the things we own. This comes from an experience of owning some shiny things. In fact, when we boast about things, they own us.
Thirdly, minimalism is the real richness. Ever tried?
Anyone can “get it done” by working late nights, being on phone 24*7 and “hustling” too hard.
The real hard work is sleeping on time, knowing when to disconnect from the devices (yes the devices that make you money), and not push too hard and let your boredom make things happen.
The smart ones choose Option 2.
The ones who want to look “smart” keep writing on Internet about it – because, busy!
What’s the point of living life if you don’t even know where your day passes or your body has become what even a senior citizen’s body isn’t or in this endless consumption, you didn’t even remember a line of what you consumed.
Slow down is the new fasttrack.
The past was horrible.
How could they do it to you?
How could you do it to yourself?
Do these thoughts sometimes encircle your mind? Like if that person from the past came back to you right now, you would hit them and vent out all your frustration?
Here’s the catch baby: Even if you did that, that won’t take away the past and its bruises.
To heal yourself, you have to heal yourself.
That is difficult.
That is the real hard work.
That will break you down into pieces several times before it actually makes you.
That will make you question yourself over and over again.
However, that will also be the right thing for you.
What’s the point of being behind those prison bars when on the sides of those bars is open space to run anywhere you need to?
It was a delay in delivery of work from one of our delivery partners.
What was supposed to be delivered in two days, was easily and conveniently taking a week.
In the first week itself, they broke several promises.
As a result, I was asked to be stern with them. Which I did.
In the coming week, they again faltered.
This time I became stern without being asked to.
As a result, I was told to be the nice and kind girl, and let the sternness be the game of the seniors.
Which made me think: I let go of my original nature of being kind, it only backfired on me.
I am known for being kind and compassionate, however, I let go of my real original nature (which, in fact, is a good virtue to possess) and that backfired on me.
Lesson learnt: NEVER let go of your goodness, even when the world wants you to.
The state with which you enter your home.
The way you walk from the parking entrance to your vehicle.
How much are you ready to ignore to make your happiness a priority.
How much you’re ready to endure to make others are happy
How to look at the person in the mirror – smiling or critical
The sigh or the joy on waking up.
Water bottle kept next to your laptop.
Not using phone because you want to read.
The general convo drifting around how bad your luck was, or how hopeful life is!
Small things that define our life in biggest ways.
Some money lessons:
Tell me, have you tried these and succeeded?
Have a pattern.
They will be unkind to you 10 times, and kind to you once. So that they can lean into that kindness and make you feel worthless 10 more times.
It happens in so many relationships of all kinds that it isn’t funny.
Here is my advice: Go build yourself. Go surround yourself with right people. Run away from wrong people. Even though they will always make you feel you are wrong, and spineless. Even if they call you names and question your character.
The safest people will always love you like a human being and not like vending machine, even if (especially if) you have made a massive error
Having some weird ideas, don’t know when (or if) I’ll be executing on them, but let’s see:
Let’s see where things go:)
Btw, 1, 2, 6 and 7 are in progress – which may even lead to 5 getting somewhere in place. Let’s see!
It is said that when you make something public, there are far greater chances of you getting back on course with things that aren’t serving you.
So, here’s me trying to document my day.
Not sure if I could document everything, but here’s the good and the parts to be changed.
To be changed:
Good things that happened:
Hmm…that was fun. I should be doing more of these. Makes life accountable.
Alright then, see you tomorrow.
Till then, take great care peops!
Thanksgiving is all about…
• Being grateful to your farmers, because without them, even pizza wasn’t possible.
• Being grateful for the electricity, otherwise how would geyser operate?
• A thousand more things tbh, but today, let’s stop with the fact that we have almost survived 2020 stronger and better.
What else could thanksgiving be about?
The world thinks you’re winning.
But deep down, you are crying.
The world thinks they are jealous of you.
Deep down, you just wish you could not be you.
The world thinks you are a butterfly
While you are simply getting out of cocoons everyday
The world thinks your life is sorted
Well, that’s what you think of the world…
If you win according to the world but not you
Is that really a win?
The win that you are looking for
Is the win that is hidden within
In a corner of your heart that is silent and loud
Lies cuddled up the win that you went looking far for
If you really work hard and get better, you will get where you want to.
If you keep forgiving people, you will get lighter.
If you keep eating a bit lesser, soon you will get to your desired destination.
If you keep persisting when you are supposed to give up, you will get great rewards instantly over a period of time.
If you be there for yourself, you will be able to be there for others as well. Not vice versa.
It turns out, we already know all the answers. We just need to decide, as Seth Godin says.
I also want to have as much engagement as GaryVee.
I also want to have as many views as MostlySane.
I also want to not think a bit before buying Zara clothes.
I also want to…
We want to do a ton of things.
And probably that will take a lot of time.
That’s not the problem.
Problem is that we are not even starting.
Problem is that we keep waiting for that ride without getting out on the road.
Problem is we don’t trust ourselves.
Problem is, we don’t even know that we are the problem.
How will we ever get what we want, if we never get out of our own way and take action?
“The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.”
– Confucius
What is it that you are waiting for?