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If it didn’t work out, something better is along the way.
If it did, you can create it even more epic.
Life isn’t about hits and misses. Life is about the hit you’ve made by being alive. You have a fiduciary responsibility to be the best of who you can be. If you don’t want to be in the life you don’t like, move. Stop wasting time on what didn’t work.
When things are not working out, perhaps you aren’t as well.
1. Taking notes while reading is an excellent way to grasp (and re-read) important information.
2. Don’t worry about the next 8 years, think about the next 8 days and executing super hard on them.
3. “Don’t charge for how much time it takes you. Charge for the value you provide.” – Ankur Warikoo
4. Hanging around with the right people is priceless. Even if you’re paid less, figuring out how to earn money from other sources would be easier.
5. What you think about, you being about. Never the other way round.
6. Spending less time on Twitter and Instagram is a phenomenal saving of your time. Time = money. Period.
7. Feeling sad is a habit more than circumstances. So is feeling happy no matter what.
A boss is happy when they get the desired results from the employee – without following up.
An employee is happy when they get the desired results from their boss – without following up.
1. Checking your email just three times a day is a sign of maturity.
2. You are loved. Let no social media tell you otherwise.
3. You may forgive people yet not allow them into your life ever again.
4. You don’t need love. You ARE love. Now go, give. Starting with yourself.
5. The best thing you could do to yourself is be You. Everyone else is already taken, as Oscar Wilde said.
To shout is not power. It is lack of power.
To demean people isn’t truthful. It’s lack of self-control.
To check phone every three minutes is not being there for your team. They want you to be easy before anything else.
As we get caught up in this endless wave of doing what the world says is right, we forget that the world needs more people who are aware, not a photocopy of the world we need to change.
My bro and bhabhi have been married for almost 4 years now.
After having a bit of knowledge and research into psychology, it is a great thing to see a relationship like this.
It isn’t about couples, rather every relationship. The way they respect each other, the way they have fun with each other, and most importantly, the way neither of them loses on their individual personality despite being together – are rare things to be found in relationships these days.
If you have managed to protect at least 2 or 3 relationships like this, you’re a rich human.
People are going to be dissatisfied with you.
At home.
At work.
Friends maybe.
There’re two things to reflect:
a. Is it a reflection of their own dissatisfaction?
Or
b. Is there something you really need to change.
In either cases, you have the power. You just need to let go of your first-emotion crisis. You just need to decide.
Today I saw a dance video of a friend of mine. She apparently was dancing with her college gang. Their energy, sync in moves, facial expressions and body language – revealed more than words ever could.
Here’s what my little knowledge of psychology tells me:
But why are we talking about this?
Because I was a star player in my first job because I was nurtured that way.
In my second job, things changed drastically because:
And damn, after that session it was a guilty feeling that encircled me. The feeling that I should have sat stuck at my desk because my boss would like it – I just didn’t want to be limited by that feeling so I attended the Zumba session. And more than anything else, it was organized by the HR of the company, and I, inter alia, received a formal email from her for attending the session.
This was just one instance, I could lay at least ten such instances that made me feel small in the organisation. Btw, instead of teaching me how to solve difficult problems, my manager used to ask me: “Will you be able to do it?” This wasn’t because I had proved my inability to him, it was because in our informal conversations he always highlighted how he felt men were more apt to doing this job.)
Was I wrong? Yes, in the desire of joining that organisation, I was wrong. Was I wrong in my stint at that workplace? Well, only if curiosity and cheerfulness are wrong.
In a fortunate tale of events, my leader did not like me and asked me to “look for further opportunities” because I didn’t fit the bill of fitting in.
I did get out of the organisation, and it was the best thing that happened to me.
Now, before we conclude, there were some good things in the organisation:
But this post isn’t necessarily about what was good in the organisation that I worked with, and what wasn’t. It was more about the culture. All organisations are the best – if they hire the right people
My friend was dancing along with her friends and they all enjoyed it. I danced with my colleagues and my non-communicative manager felt worse because of this. Of course that guilt slid into me. Of course that did affect me.
That is why it is important to review the company and the culture you are working with.
It is going to be hard, but so is it hard for the company to find the right fit for them. If they could do the emotional labour of being patient and going through the difficult stuff, so is it your responsibility to move the needle and go to the place you would be proud to say in your first page interview.
We become big
on the day
we refuse to feel small
on small acts of people
who don’t know
they are acting small.
They perhaps know this much only.
And thus, are acting this way.
But if you become like them
in the process of teaching them a lesson,
you have lost the biggest lesson of your own life:
“To not to be like the ones who try to pull you down.”
Because in reality, they aren’t trying to.
They just know this much.
They just know this much.
Perhaps you also need to alter your perspective.
Almost everyone of us was shocked on the sudden demise of Sushant Singh Rajput.
People blamed nepotism, crushing of his dreams and existence of politics for that.
The time kept on going. And then came the day for his last movie being premiered on air. We were ready with tissue papers, popcorns, and tonnes of empathy for him.
We all cried with him.
Now what’s next? In a few days or weeks, our life will start going as it was. In fact, it already has.
Here’s the biggest truth: Sushant won’t be happy on you just watching his last movie.
If we cried and loved him and missed him, it won’t make him happy.
Rather if we just stopped and did something like:
Sushant would be much much happier, wherever he is, whatever he is doing.
You are terrified at his death. The entire nation is. However, none of us, not a single one of us know what others are going through – not even our family and friends.
If we could show them that we are there for them, no matter what, they’ll feel connected to a part of them that most of us have lost.
‘And perhaps, they come to life again! Maybe Sushant will also!
This lockdown came along with gyms locked down.
Till March, I had reached a great weight resistance. Then began the workout at home.
Today I brought in weights from my old home, and lo, the resistance which I could carry initially wasn’t there. The reason, obviously, was lack of practice with weights.
In life, the more we continue to live with goodness, the more resilience we develop against what’s isn’t right – without losing on who we are.
If we remain where we are without increasing that quota of goodness, over time, we’ll lose it.
Over time, we will lose ourselves.
1. The only way to feeling good is listening and reading inspirational stuff. This may sound boring, however once you start, it ain’t leaving you.
2. But that exposure to stuff won’t change your life. Your life will be changed when you move out of the noise and reflect on what all you learnt. When you become your own teacher and give yourself some homework, that’s when life changes.
3. Your old habits are waiting at your doorstep if you’re not strict with enforcing your newer, better habits.
4. Where there is true love, you accept people as they are.
5. If you want to change something with them, it’s perhaps because they’re reflecting your insecurities and incompleteness.
That’s it for today, folks! See you tomorrow 😌.
If you’re making the same mistakes each day, your learning curve isn’t getting sharper.
And that, my friend, calls for reflection and changing the things!
Yesterday my father turned 66. While his life has innumerable lessons, here are some that inspire me today:
1. Picked up exercise during lockdown. Still continues it for an hour daily.
2. Loves to go to his work daily. A trait missing in a lot of millennials.
3. Is always there to listen to my problems, without judgement. Ever.
4. Will give up anything but never honesty. That, in turn, brings him tons of blessings.
5. Most importantly, understands the space I am in. Thus, never forces me or even brings up the topic of marriage. Being a boomer and raised by parents who witnessed WW2 and partition of the country, this mindset shift from him is the best gift he could give to me.
Here’s a closing note: Him and I have different points of view on almost everything. Yet, you will miss your father when he is gone. Love him despite the differences. No one would love you like him, and this comes from someone who is the biggest rebel to her father. 🤗
This question is holding far more importance these days than anything else.
Well, yesterday I ended up the day my way. So slept well, and woke up really well.
And will do that daily.
It is just a formula. If you don’t apply it, you lose it. Every moment of life, you are just fighting a silent fight to keep your positivity alive. Today I did. Tomorrow, a little better. And a little more.
We shall overcome. We will overcome.
When did it actually happen?
When did I move from giving love to needing it?
When did I move from giving tonnes of acceptance to needing it?
When did I move from cheerful, super happy and full of charm kid to crying whole day?
Never have I ever waited like this. Waiting for this time to go away. Don’t know when. I have written positivity and power for eternity. Then why so much truth? Why am I documenting my rock bottom? Why?
I have no idea. Other than the fact that I want it all out of my system.
And also one more reason: The ones suffering from mental health problems are already strong. They have to muster the strength to get back up. So don’t think they need any help. They spread awareness on it so that more people could become empathetic towards each other and more cases of depression stop from coming. That is the only reason.
Yesterday was a day purposefully missed out on blog.
Played badminton with cousins after a really long time. Covid has brought all the memories of having fun with each other back.
Also attended two online classes of two people I admire a lot.
And said no to someone who has no sense of respecting someone else’s (and their own) time. Without letting them know. Felt great. Learnt better tactics.
Honestly I could have done that. But I wanted me time. Sadly, our society values and respects us only when we are “doing something” and not when we are chilling and spending time with family.
That’s sad. And we need to change it. How? A. By taking some me time. B. By not judging others when they take their own.
Society just doesn’t go for a bath and gets cleaner. We do it each day by what we do. And by what we choose not to do.
We need more people who understand us.
We need more people to respect us.
We need people who could see how hard we are working.
Amidst all of that, have we taken time to acknowledge our own journey?
And have we dug deep and acknowledged someone else?
If the answer to both these is yes, do we then really need someone to appreciate us?
We have different levels of love.
And different levels of hate.
That is what causes differences in the way we feel.
Basically arising out of inability to communicate properly.
Let them know. Or yourself.