To face failures is great.
To share it is greater, because you are being vulnerable.
To share it with those who will make fun of it and perhaps treat you with disrespect – shows you need to change your circle.
Tag: people
People will not understand you. They will expect from you, yet they won’t probably reciprocate it.
What to do then?
Should you also reciprocate?
Well, we all have tried it and it never worked.
The only thing that could be the solution for everything, every single thing is to keep yourself strong from inside. It’s an insurance no one could take away.
Like every insurance, you have to pay consistent premium (aka learning) in order to actually avail the benefits.
Like every insurance, you will have to stop frivolous spends (hanging around with those people) to be able to pay premium without fail.
Instagram stories shows the world what you are doing.
The only problem being: no one really gets happy on seeing the fact that you are doing great, and they aren’t!
The point then, is to have a life that others would want to draw inspiration and action from, instead of just allowing them to tap tap tap and criticise you and go away.
It’s a difficult process – to go away from what the world likes towards what they really really want.
The only easy process is eating mindlessly. Everything else takes efforts.
Recently I have started going deep into thoughts of Naval Ravikant and Kapil Gupta.
If you don’t know who they are, I won’t tell you bro, google them 🙂
And after reading their material, listening to their words – a strange thing happens!
All of a sudden, I derive zero pleasure in looking at posts on LinkedIn and Instagram.
The mind is drifted to a different plane of thinking, all of a sudden.
A place where it does not want to return from.
A place where the mind feels most nourished.
It’s immaculately strange, and conveniently the most beautiful place to be in.
Honesty I don’t know how to end this because I don’t want to preach you something, however I do want you to nudge to think deeper.
The mind thinks useless thoughts because it is conditioned to think so infinitely.
What if we start feeding our mind such such such powerful thoughts? Most people won’t, because misery loves company. The one or two that would, will change the world forever.
You really want to speak everything bad to that one person.
Except the fact that, that bad won’t change them either. It would just make them worse off.
You want to talk with that one person who does not want to talk with you.
Except the fact that, even if they start talking with you they won’t respect you anyway.
You want to change that one family member whose habits you’re not proud of.
Except the fact that, even if by a miracle of Aladdin’s Ginnie, even if they change – is your happiness always conditional on other people?
You want your team to love you.
Except the fact that, everyone loves only couch potato. For someone who is “doing something” will never be liked by all.
You want to….
Except the fact that, there will always be a “yang” to every “yin”, and vice versa.
Walking on the path of truth, is the only journey you’d be proud of!
Think of a recent WhatsApp group chat.
You were away while that chat was happening, and you read the conversation hours later.
When you’re done reading the chat, how do you feel?
Invariably your emotions are exactly same as those being exchanged in the chat.
The chat is simply written conversation. No one “said” anything to you. Yet now you feel those emotions.
Everything you read is just a thought.
Why not you write thoughts to yourself?
Why not read every single time, what you want to hear?
It’s easy. It’s simple. It’ll take just 15 minutes for you.
Will you? The answer depends on how serious you are for your life.
Any business relationship we enter into, we may either feel it’s great or we may feel something is not right at all.
On the surface everything may look cool, you won’t be able to point out what.
Yet you know in your heart that this business relationship is not going to work right.
Be a little right to yourself, and walk out from there. Only when you get away from wrong, will the right make space in your life.
Agreeing with people is great. Every single human needs validation more than anything else.
However if you want to go ahead in life, you need to learn to tell what could be better – in a way that it does not offend the other person.
Everyone wants to get better. And if we see something that could help them get better and conceal it, we are making them worse. Nothing could be worse.
Easy versus critical, yet the truth.
Shouting out loud works.
And then it says the trust of the person shouted at.
Our goal is to go far, together. Not fast and lonely.
Letting your life and lifestyle make its imprint, instead of shouting to get things done – is a great thing to begin with. That never made ends.
Every single day we have, we say more than what we speak.
Most people believe people judge them by what they speak. Speaking doesn’t generate trust. It’s just a validation of who you are.
What you don’t say and do it, decides what people will think of you.
Who you are inside, people will always know about it. Never an exception.
What you are speaks so loudly to me that I can barely hear what you say.
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The question, then, is not “how do I make myself liked by them?”
The question is “how do I be the same inside and outside?”
Like a postcard. Not an envelope.
Staying in silence is good. Thinking others should also do this way, is too much a burden for them.
Working out is good. Not respecting others when they don’t, isn’t.
Liking Sufi music is great. Expecting others to find it melodious isn’t.
Having choices is what makes us human.
Respecting others with their choices makes us a super human.
Not asking them to change because we want them to, is divine.
1. Everyone is simply doing their best. Even if it is hard to admit, it is the truth.
2. Your role is to love. Starting with you.
3. Your role is to improve yourself. Everything else will eventually rise.
4. People making it to the world records – don’t have to make you feel worried – if that’s not where you want to be.
5. It will all be sorted out in the end. What you need to take control of, is today.
No one ranked better because they shouted more. Okay, in the short term, they did.
No one became great because they took away credit for someone else’s creativity.
Absolutely no one ever won because they were great at making others feel like losers.
The way to getting better, is to get better.
The way to rising higher, is to make others rise as well.
The way to eternal goodness, is the eternal goodness for all.
I dream of a world…
where we would love each other,
respect each other,
talk with each other,
irrespective of what they have done.
Just out of humanity.
When I receive an e-mail I didn’t expect to receive,
How I want to respond:
Mujhe tujhse baat hi nahi karni! Katta, katta, hamesha ke liye katta!!!
How I actually respond:
Sure, thank you.
Is this how sometimes even you want to respond? 💁🏻♀️
The goal is to get up from that “mood off” as quickly as possible.
Not by suppressing it.
Rather, by:
– explaining yourself
– talking with yourself
– telling yourself that you can’t trade your happiness for someone else’s actions.
Inside is the way out.
Even when we see that people are doing wrong, they are doing it right.
They are. From their point of view.
So you all may have started new habits during quarantine and also gave up on many of them.
Here’s the way to keep up with a habit:
Show up till Day 3. Not for one day, not for two.
When you show up on Day 3, you will gather the momentum to continue it further.
Always works. If you do the work.
Numbers
Followers
Salary
Likes and comments.
Four circles or three arrows in your car brand.
Centralised AC.
Chimney that doesn’t make any noise.
Success – we have measured it by metrics that world has taught us to.
Maybe it isn’t success. Maybe success is the way you really want.
There’s nothing wrong with material things, if you really want them.
If that’s not what really makes you happy, then we really need to live and grow by our own version of happiness.
The best way to be liked by others is to love yourself first.
The best way to bring that change is to be the change, as Gandhi said.
The best way to change the world is to change yourself first.
We probably know all the answers. What we perhaps need to do, is to tell yourself you are the answer.