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Productivity Tips

Some productivity tips, not season specific or specific for place you’re working from.

Work every time, you just need to decide.

1. Don’t receive a call on the first time, unless it’s scheduled. It turns out, when you will call them back an hour or two later, the “important” work would’ve been resolved. So would be your time be saved.

2. Take a nap post lunch, do NOT engage in phone after lunch. Will make you happier, and of course, more productive.

3. One minute, every hour – take a break. Move, or sit still. However, just a break.

4. Have your goals for tomorrow, tonight itself. Your mornings will be saved from internet in the morning.

5. After having the goals for tonight, tell everything to God. Everything – good or bad, meetings, aha moments, etc., during the day – give it to Him. Surrender all good as a gratitude to Him, surrender all that is not good, to him to handle. You will be mesmerized at how your life starts falling in place.

That’s it folks! I could write a ten more; however doing less makes chances of execution better.

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Perception

Some of the things we all must be grateful for, especially in these times:

1. That we have salt to add in our food.

2. We can call our parents and tell them “I love you.”

3. You are aware enough to be indoors, and not being stubborn and behaving like nothing has happened.

4. You have a peaceful night sleep.

5. There are doctors who work with patients who are infected, and still continue to serve.

6. Sun is rising daily.

7. You have a roof over your head.

8. You have a blanket.

9. Oxygen isn’t contaminated.

10. The selfless spirit of delivery boys, trash pickers, house maids, car cleaners, vegetables and fruit vendors, public transport drivers, etc., is way beyond we could ever imagine. Huge gratitude to them, for working when their families also want them to be home.

These are small, and hugely important things. If we would miss out on any of these, life would become very difficult or perhaps impossible in some cases.

Spend your free (and busy) time being grateful.

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I dream of a world

I dream of a world, where…

• where we could tell each other that we need help

• where asking for help would be considered a sign of strength and not of powerlessness

• where failing in life did not mean we are a failure

• where when we said no, we did it respectfully

• where we appreciated our loved ones for their journey even if they are not doing what we wished them to do

• where we learnt how to tolerate our angst against people whose sole and soul role is to make us stronger, and to show us that our time is way to important to try to change them

• where we just knew that we are loved

• where we can just be, instead of trying to be what we do not even wish to see.

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Men have that urge more!

I was talking with a male friend, who was sharing his story of how he did not want to pursue career of his parents’ choice.

He shared how at a point of time he was frustrated at taking money from his parents, so he decided to switch what from what his parents wanted to do, to something non-conventional.

While he shared this resistance to take money from his parents, he added: “Men are more likely to have this urge to be out on their own, and not take money from parents.”

Dude what do you think of women?

I have never taken money from my parents in the last five years.

How can you do this gender discrimination when you don’t know how women think like?

That’s what the feminist inside of me wanted to tell him. And he would have heard it and even said sorry perhaps.

Yet I decided to stay shut up and not say a word in retaliation.

Here’s why:

• World is not changed by anger. Even if you’re right, anger dilutes your stance.

• He was not wrong, he just hasn’t adopted the mindset of how an independent woman would like to be treated. Maybe he is showing that he considers himself to be “the man” who has the right to extraordinarily, so be it. It should not lower my respect for him as an individual, rather it should tell me how to deal with him going forward.

• Most importantly, my father who is the most important man in my life, treats me and my sisters with the best love and respect he could ever give. That’s what is one of my greatest assets.

Be grateful for what you have, don’t walk out in the world with a sword in your hand.

And change the world with your existence, not with your excitement.

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What are we going to do?

A problem.

On the outside world.

The world has almost stopped functioning.

Are you functioning internally and emotionally?

Inner strength. It is only going to help.

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Unexpected

You wake up in the morning and are filled with utter positivity.

You get out of your home and receive an unexpected news.

A news that tells you that you are not required.

You didn’t expect it. However it did happen.

You don’t know what to do now.

Then what to do? How to proceed? How to make the next right move?

Here’s how: take some time. Take the time to be calm. Take the time to relax. Take the time to think.

And then, take the step that you would proudly be able to tell God.

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The Perfect Day

If you don’t like working on PPTs, are you doing something along with it that you love?

It’s okay to feel sleepy when you’re not rested, are you making best use of you time when you are well rested?

If your parents did not give you a perfect childhood, are you giving them a perfect older age life?

It’s okay if you want to change how the current world looks like, question is are you starting with yourself? Daily?

No one was offered a perfect world on the day they were born.

Everyone, was offered an opportunity, to leave the world a little better in the un-defined number of years they were given. If you, like the rest of us, do not know the date of your death, today would be a great day to start.

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What do you get affected by?

The things that affect you, are the things that control you.

The things that control you, are the things that decide your course of action.

The things that decide your course of action, should be something that needs approval from your happiness.

Now, think and decide: what’s something that’s affecting you right now?

Are you happy with it?

If not, why are you allowing it to affect it?

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Family-Holi! 🙃

It’s a festival in India – Holi. It means a lot of us who work in metro cities are at home celebrating the festival with our families.

I had read somewhere once, “if you think you’re enlightened, try spending a week with your family.”

When we are going to spend time with our families, it’s going to be

– a conflict of opinion

– a need to gain validation from them no matter how much we know we aren’t going to get it

– most importantly, the need to get up and get indulged in our phones.

Avoid all of these, not only 1 and 3. All three.

You’ll be happier.

And leave your family happier.

Happy Holi folks!

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The measure of goodness

What if you shout at everyone at work and at home, and think you are a good person just because you are kind to people in a temple?

Your personality is defined by what you do consistently, everywhere.

If your personality changes and becomes different at different places, that’s conditional formatting.

That isn’t you.

The question, to consider then, is this: “Who or what you are in your most comfortable space?”

Do you want to retain that part of you or does it need some alteration?

Don’t think of change, think of who do you wish to become when that change becomes a part of you.

Think of you-ing, versus you-doing.

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Working hard

If hard work could solve all the problems…

…you know it doesn’t.

Except when it does.

Hard work, without putting in the right thoughts process and strategy, won’t ever come to rescue.

Having a laser like focus and not working hard for it, won’t either.

The goal, then, is to use your power of discernment, and decide if you really ought to be working hard Bro.

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But I really want to be liked!

Validation is a sneaky game. It gets in through a hole underneath your main door, and makes you believe that it’s quintessentially the hero of your home.

Sadly, it sneaks in so softly that you don’t even realise that it has taken hold of you.

At some point of time, almost all of us have fallen into this need for validation. We believe that’s how life is supposed to be.

Wait, there’s a deeper side to it.

We need validation because we fear rejection.

We fear rejection because we think that we may not be liked by people we are most wanting to impress.

That feeling of not being liked, makes our ego shatter. It’s so deeply ingrained that at the time of needing validation, we’ve even forgotten that it’s the ego that is wanting to be liked.

When not liked, ego 0, reflection 1. That is a scary place to be. To see all your vulnerabilities surfaced and wanting them not to drown you, just scares the hell out of us.

What if, trying the other way round: Remembering that you’re whole and complete. If at any time you’re not liked by others, there are times when you’re liked by others.

Neither of these define who you are – it’s simply their perception.

Learn from feedback, let go of criticism, because inside you are perfect, outside we all are in the process of chipping away the non-required stuff.

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The stop the shopper game

Yesterday my mind played tricks on me. It fooled into making me believe that I needed to buy a lot of stuff.

So off I went to the shopping mall with a list.

Spent time in one store, scrolling and found nothing.

Spent time in store #2, tried clothes and bought nothing.

Entered store #3, where I always find my clothing of my choice. As I was taking the staircase towards the women’s section, a sudden thought hit me: “Where are you wandering around? You already have a lottt of clothes. Going there, you’re going to spend at least 5K for just 2-3 pieces of clothing. For what? For what Bro? Just to stop wearing the existing clothes?”

This thought hit my mind, and within 30 seconds I came downstairs and got out of the mall.

Time was wasted. It’s better to learn from sunk costs and not to sink further.

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What’s holding you back?

Wait, stop, and just think over it. Not just on the outside.

What’s really really holding you back? What is it that is stopping you?

Because it’s nothing on the outside.

It’s perhaps what you think people will think.

It’s perhaps that you think people will dislike you if you don’t respond instantly.

It’s perhaps the fact that you haven’t sat down with yourself to figure out how to love yourself.

Because if you love yourself fully, you free yourself and let only the best part of you pop out. Everything else, you become super compassionate with, and let it go.

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But no one understands me!

Maybe that’s true, that no one understands you.

Maybe even this is true, that this has been going on for long.

While this has been going on for long, why do you think it has been taking so long?

The answer lies in sitting back and reflecting. Maybe we need to sit back and start getting honest with the person in the mirror.

If you don’t know in which direction you’re walking, isn’t it going to be pretty impossible to reach your destination?

Right now, just right now, sit back and reflect on your life in the present, before moving on to the next distraction? If you have a minute for yourself…

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Excellence

Excellence has a cost.

The cost is, usually giving up the ordinary.

However, addiction to ordinary is a big one. And an addictive one.

So start with the question: what if excellence was my nature of being?

The cost then becomes the necessity.

Start different.

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The problem

If you wanna know what’s your problem, just try spending some time with yourself in solitude. That’s the real game.

All your weaknesses will come to the surface.

All your problems will come out with a revelation: that the source of them is common.

And when the source of that is common, the solution has to one.

What is that one, has to be decided and implemented by the one reading this right now.

Implement. Execute.

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Success is taking too much time…

If success is taking too much time for you to unfold, it’s not because you are incapable.

It’s perhaps because somewhere, inside your head, you still don’t believe that you deserve this success. And since you don’t believe it, your belief always comes true.

We talk about self confidence.

What about self confidence for success? When you have it, you will know it will move mountains.

Bonus Point: Self confidence comes from doing the work.

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Becoming great

To not to be disturbed by the voice on the other side of the concall.

To respect other people’s timings.

To keep a smiling face.

To keep things sorted on a piece of paper.

To let yourself know you are the boss of your time, and to be so full that others are inspired by your way of being.

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An introvert’s positivity

Be positive.

Spread the positive vibes.

Give goodness to others.

Speak positively.

While all of that may hold true, if you’re an introvert, none of this might hold true to you.

You may just want to sit around and observe life. Be calm and say nothing. Simply smile with an acute gratitude and bliss at the same time. Forming stories inside your own head.

Just be that, the world needs your things, as Susan Cain said. You being yourself is the best gift you could give to yourself.