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To shout is not power. It is lack of power.
To demean people isn’t truthful. It’s lack of self-control.
To check phone every three minutes is not being there for your team. They want you to be easy before anything else.
As we get caught up in this endless wave of doing what the world says is right, we forget that the world needs more people who are aware, not a photocopy of the world we need to change.
When you don’t like someone, going about not liking them forever is a tough job.
What if you asked yourself instead: “Why do I not like them?”
It may be possible that their values aren’t aligned with yours.
It may also be possible that they just don’t know better.
And when you make time to think deep with yourself, you’ll be able to make an informed choice, not the one that is out of rage and impulse.
You get the life basis the people you allow. The first person to allow is you, not the byproduct of someone else’s actions.
People are going to be dissatisfied with you.
At home.
At work.
Friends maybe.
There’re two things to reflect:
a. Is it a reflection of their own dissatisfaction?
Or
b. Is there something you really need to change.
In either cases, you have the power. You just need to let go of your first-emotion crisis. You just need to decide.
We become big
on the day
we refuse to feel small
on small acts of people
who don’t know
they are acting small.
They perhaps know this much only.
And thus, are acting this way.
But if you become like them
in the process of teaching them a lesson,
you have lost the biggest lesson of your own life:
“To not to be like the ones who try to pull you down.”
Because in reality, they aren’t trying to.
They just know this much.
They just know this much.
Perhaps you also need to alter your perspective.
Almost everyone of us was shocked on the sudden demise of Sushant Singh Rajput.
People blamed nepotism, crushing of his dreams and existence of politics for that.
The time kept on going. And then came the day for his last movie being premiered on air. We were ready with tissue papers, popcorns, and tonnes of empathy for him.
We all cried with him.
Now what’s next? In a few days or weeks, our life will start going as it was. In fact, it already has.
Here’s the biggest truth: Sushant won’t be happy on you just watching his last movie.
If we cried and loved him and missed him, it won’t make him happy.
Rather if we just stopped and did something like:
Sushant would be much much happier, wherever he is, whatever he is doing.
You are terrified at his death. The entire nation is. However, none of us, not a single one of us know what others are going through – not even our family and friends.
If we could show them that we are there for them, no matter what, they’ll feel connected to a part of them that most of us have lost.
‘And perhaps, they come to life again! Maybe Sushant will also!
Yesterday my father turned 66. While his life has innumerable lessons, here are some that inspire me today:
1. Picked up exercise during lockdown. Still continues it for an hour daily.
2. Loves to go to his work daily. A trait missing in a lot of millennials.
3. Is always there to listen to my problems, without judgement. Ever.
4. Will give up anything but never honesty. That, in turn, brings him tons of blessings.
5. Most importantly, understands the space I am in. Thus, never forces me or even brings up the topic of marriage. Being a boomer and raised by parents who witnessed WW2 and partition of the country, this mindset shift from him is the best gift he could give to me.
Here’s a closing note: Him and I have different points of view on almost everything. Yet, you will miss your father when he is gone. Love him despite the differences. No one would love you like him, and this comes from someone who is the biggest rebel to her father. 🤗
This question is holding far more importance these days than anything else.
Well, yesterday I ended up the day my way. So slept well, and woke up really well.
And will do that daily.
It is just a formula. If you don’t apply it, you lose it. Every moment of life, you are just fighting a silent fight to keep your positivity alive. Today I did. Tomorrow, a little better. And a little more.
We shall overcome. We will overcome.
When did it actually happen?
When did I move from giving love to needing it?
When did I move from giving tonnes of acceptance to needing it?
When did I move from cheerful, super happy and full of charm kid to crying whole day?
Never have I ever waited like this. Waiting for this time to go away. Don’t know when. I have written positivity and power for eternity. Then why so much truth? Why am I documenting my rock bottom? Why?
I have no idea. Other than the fact that I want it all out of my system.
And also one more reason: The ones suffering from mental health problems are already strong. They have to muster the strength to get back up. So don’t think they need any help. They spread awareness on it so that more people could become empathetic towards each other and more cases of depression stop from coming. That is the only reason.
I want to put a strong and happy face and tell it’s going alright.
I also want to be grateful for the love and blessings that I have been blessed with.
I also want to do great and productive stuff.
However it just isn’t.
Family thinks I’m too lost. In reality, I am too lost.
They think I’m working too much. In reality, I am trying to work too much.
They perhaps believe I don’t care. In reality, can someone please care without conditions attached?
Will learn to deal with it, navigate it, fight it, tell myself it will be over.
And it will.
Till then, we may just learn to switch from spreading awareness to becoming the awareness.
Yesterday was a day purposefully missed out on blog.
Played badminton with cousins after a really long time. Covid has brought all the memories of having fun with each other back.
Also attended two online classes of two people I admire a lot.
And said no to someone who has no sense of respecting someone else’s (and their own) time. Without letting them know. Felt great. Learnt better tactics.
Honestly I could have done that. But I wanted me time. Sadly, our society values and respects us only when we are “doing something” and not when we are chilling and spending time with family.
That’s sad. And we need to change it. How? A. By taking some me time. B. By not judging others when they take their own.
Society just doesn’t go for a bath and gets cleaner. We do it each day by what we do. And by what we choose not to do.
Boss.
The moment one uses this word, it comes across as someone who is dominating, trying to pull you down, and thinks nothing in your interest, only in the interest of getting work done.
While I have worked with several bosses over the past years, I understand getting a good one is merely a chance of luck. Otherwise we are all doomed.
When you have a good one, there may be times when you may still want to change parts of their personality.
Of course, you may be considering job switch or client switch (because the client is also a boss) or making any other move, there is something you can always change, which is: becoming more elevated in your state of mind.
This may sound like the most obvious answer.
Feeling bad and rejected because of boss? Make a more elevated state of mind.
Feeling resentful towards them? Create a more elevated state of mind.
Want to do gossip about them? Create a more elevated state of mind.
You may actually not want to do that in all these situations, and just go and deflate their car tyre as an easy option.
However, here’s the harsh reality friends: Unless you change your own attitude (no matter how good it is right now – remember, elevation 😇), you won’t have the power to change your attitude towards someone else.
By all means keep looking for a new job if this one doesn’t feel right for you.
However, in the midst, in the process of finding out a new one, is it really worth your time to spend emotional and mental energy on someone who probably doesn’t care? Perhaps they are going through a bigger life problem that you aren’t aware – and their behavior is simply a reflection of that problem. Maybe their kid is not as bright as you and that’s why they want to pull you down.
Perhaps none of these reasons exist and still they aren’t humanly nice to you. Everyone is fighting a battle we don’t know – not even about our immediate family.
To make the change outside, starting within is perhaps the first step. And the last one. And all the steps in the middle. Everything else will be taken care of.
No, no one would change because of that. But you won’t be losing yourself in the process of coping up or finding a new boss. That’s when, you become your own boss.
We have different levels of love.
And different levels of hate.
That is what causes differences in the way we feel.
Basically arising out of inability to communicate properly.
Let them know. Or yourself.
One, is of course, losing the weight – emotional and physical.
Two, is to remember you are the light.
Three, quite relevant, is to politely decline. Nothing, absolutely nothing would give you as much energy as not doing what you know you shouldn’t be doing.
If there is pressure in your life, and you are worried about it, here is the healer:
This is how life should be.
This ain’t compromise, this ain’t adjusting on life, this is the truth.
And truth shall set you free. If you learn how to live with the truth, instead of letting it kill you.
Just because we are humans, we will thrive in accordance with living with other humans.
This would, in itself, make the process difficult because all humans are different.
However, if you learn to be easy, things are going to change – because you cared for the common good, you cared to make the other person feel good, and also you didn’t care to follow the angry zone of the world and marched to your own beat of ease and peace.
Do you feel hurt by people?
You did good to them however they didn’t respond?
What if they didn’t hurt you?
What if they hurt your idea of how you should be treated?
No one, absolutely no one owes you anything. If they’re good, you’re lucky. If they aren’t good, you get stronger.
I see a lot of parents of my generation who still teach their kids what to do and what not to do.
That’s the saddest thing to happen.
Because we are creating another version of ourselves.
And we won’t be doing it in the first place if we were proud of what we have become.
Our parents’ generation did not have as many privileges as we have.
Not using the privileges that we have, is probably worse than not having privileges.
Today an Amazon packet was to be delivered. The boy reached on the ground floor, and called.
Since I didn’t receive, I immediately called back, however was unreachable.
So I went to the balcony of our first floor home, and saw him.
He asked for my name first. I responded. Then he asked for his number that flashed on to my screen. Then he even asked for my number that was there on the package. For no reasons, no one has ever done that.
A part of me wanted to get angry at him. However, I told myself: “He must also be in pain for going out and meeting so many people in these conditions. More so, maybe he had lost a valuable packet in the past for not doing due diligence.”
This suddenly stopped me from getting angry. And gave me perspective.
We choose our emotions. And then, those emotions choose us.
Learn, instead of repenting.
If you choose to show your authentic self, it is amazing how many people would offer themselves to help you.
Society has taught us to show only goodness and beauty, and that is what brings respect from others.
The real thing, if surfaced to the top, would bring in reality from everyone else as well.
Collectively, we will take things forward, by showing where we lag.
Otherwise, false impressions will create false realities, which will serve no true purpose.