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Knowing Yourself, Life

Helping and Asking for help

Part I: Giving Help

If you want to help someone else, make sure you’ve helped yourself.

If you think you are still doing them a favour, you are not.

People love to know they’re loved, only if they could feel you loving yourself.

Part II: Asking for Help

If you are asking for someone else’s help out of their obligation to do it for you and out of their inability to not do it willingly, probably you need to rethink your choices.

Conclusion:

The only way to have everything aligned on the outside is to align yourself from within. Nothing changes before that.

Truth be told

Where do you bring so much love from?

I was having a conversation with someone yesterday, who was justifying their anger.

When I told them you always have the option to choose love, they said where do I get so much love from?

Very valid question.

With a simple answer: connect with God because He is the ocean.

Like every relationship, it requires commitment.

Like every deep relationship, it will nurture deeply.

Meditation

The Magic Wand

Meditation is not just to “feel good”.

When we practice a dedicated practice of meditation, we hardly face issues managing our time and focus.

It’s not just for monks in the Himalayas. Fully effective for corporate ninjas like you and I.

Here’s the best thing meditation has done for me:

The ability to complete a two-hour task in 20-30 minutes. As exaggerating as it may sound, if you have practiced meditation consistently, you know this is as true as water.

You need more time, right?

People, Success

That strange DM

Today I received a LinkedIn DM from an old school mate.

Nothing real, just very small talk to strike a conversation.

And I decided to ignore it.

Not because I had some expectations of him and he had shattered them.

Rather because how long?

How long will we keep basing our dopamine on random DMs from strangers?

How long will we keep wasting our time in pursuits that cumulatively waste days from our years?

How long will we allow someone else to decide when will we be available on social and they steer the conversation?

The best people live on the edge of saying no. That’s where everything happens.

To listen to “yes’s” saying hundreds of “no’s” is the most important thing. Sometimes even in a day.

Thoughts, Truth be told

Reach out?

It is a strange world, of course.

And in this whole process of being open and sharing your thoughts with others, are we really safe and secure there?

Most people today are carrying an emotional load.

And if we choose to share ourselves with them, the advice that is going to come isn’t necessarily going to be useful, rather the opposite.

So how do we be open in the first place?

Simple. Communicate everything to God. I personally write a letter to God every single night before going to bed, and the way he helps is miraculous.

As weird as it may sound, it is the reason that strong people persist and are able to be the lighthouse.

Will you, starting today?

PS: No one will see it, you’ll be happy!

Life, People

Goodbyes

Goodbyes are the most beautiful things on the planet.

When we know we have to say a goodbye, all of a sudden we tend to forget what pain they caused us.

We suddenly feel regret on the pains we know we caused to them.

Why does it happen in the first place?

It happens, because we humans tend to live life on the pedestals of tomorrow.

Will make that call tomorrow.

Will call my sister tomorrow.

Will pay the credit card bill tomorrow.

The way we love tomorrow, if we loved our today the same way – no goodbye would be so painful.

Here’s a parting question: Where in your life would we feel bad, if we didn’t get a chance to say a goodbye?

Life

The easiest way to change your life

If you look at your day, you’ll find several things to make the radical shift.

And to look at all of them might sound demeaning.

So here’s the way to change your life:

Change just one thing in your day that causes you most pain.

Just one. Not three. Not five. Just one.

Maybe you check your phone just for ten minutes in the morning and it may get your schedule haywire.

Maybe you have your dinner quite late.

Maybe you get distracted easily in your environment.

What is it that causes you the most pain?

Tackling just one thing will lead to domino effect of life altering habits.

Decide now.

Action, Process

The cooking compound interest

When I had initially learnt to cook, I’d multiply the amount of water and spices by the number of people who were eating the food.

Since I knew the perfect ingredients for my dal rice, i.e., what I cook for myself in Noida – while cooking the same for my parents at home I’d just put 3X water and salt.

Thinking it would work.

Except that it didn’t.

It requires lesser water than 3X of a single person’s water. It is just building up.

In life if we want to do something that seems humongous, we just need to begin the difficult process. As we keep taking small steps, we realise in the latter half of the journey that later you don’t have to make those 3X or 4X of efforts at the start.

The compound interest of your efforts will be more than enough to make you reach the destination.

You just need to start. Will you?

Knowing Yourself

How you doin?

Your idol is doing something you don’t want to be doing.

The world is telling you to do that just doesn’t feel right!

Someone in the extended family is teaching how to betray others.

Everyone has their opinions and what they say is right where they are.

You do your own thing. Not because it’s hard. Rather because it’s difficult to be like someone else. When you are you, you will work harder than it is required, and you will feel zero fatigue because you are living by your own values.

Even if it is the same boring stuff every time, you know when you know.

People, Work & Business

What’s your relationship status?

Any business relationship we enter into, we may either feel it’s great or we may feel something is not right at all.

On the surface everything may look cool, you won’t be able to point out what.

Yet you know in your heart that this business relationship is not going to work right.

Be a little right to yourself, and walk out from there. Only when you get away from wrong, will the right make space in your life.

Knowing Yourself

What do you stand for?

If something in the work goes wrong, do you own it up or let it hide under the covers – until it finally does come out!

If someone in the team has failed to deliver on a project, do you help them out or do you go to the manager?

If someone in family wants a solution, do you sit and listen?

What we stand for, stands along with us.

What we do, becomes our bio-data.

The real choice is when we have a dilemma, not when life is vanilla.

Life, Success

To know more and better

We think we know everything.

Maybe we are right.

Until we are not.

The best way to challenge our assumptions is to start knowing more.

To know more means you don’t know everything. Which is a beautiful place to be.

What if we challenge our assumptions? Not our beliefs and values, rather our assumptions.

And the virtuous cycle continues!

Life

If you need a good life

Kobe died.

Irfan died.

You and I survived the corona.

Do we need more examples to start living life?

Action, Knowing Yourself

About finding your answers

If any question had a straight answer, life would not be the way it is today.

And the way it is today, is how it is supposed to be.

The meaning of life is to fall in love with the process. The meaning of life is to take action, only then you will enjoy the pauses.

If you feel lost, if you don’t know where do you want to go, if you don’t know what’s next, here’s the reality: you can find it.

You have found out a lot of answers in the past.

If you are willing to take action, you will figure out the answer.

If you are not taking action because you are lost, then you have already lost.

No action = Assured Failure

Action = Experience or Success. Both are valuable.

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About having opinions

It may so happen that a well wisher has a totally different opinion about your life than what you have.

The thing is if you stand by yourself and you believe in your idea and you believe in the fact that you have explored all possible options and then taken this step because you’re proud of it, then my friends please do not get carried away by someone else’s opinion.

Your life has to be lived by you.

Your standards of happiness are something you should stand for, instead of expecting someone else to create those standards of happiness in themselves so that you could live by them.

That is a very very dangerous place to be.

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Productivity Tips

Some productivity tips, not season specific or specific for place you’re working from.

Work every time, you just need to decide.

1. Don’t receive a call on the first time, unless it’s scheduled. It turns out, when you will call them back an hour or two later, the “important” work would’ve been resolved. So would be your time be saved.

2. Take a nap post lunch, do NOT engage in phone after lunch. Will make you happier, and of course, more productive.

3. One minute, every hour – take a break. Move, or sit still. However, just a break.

4. Have your goals for tomorrow, tonight itself. Your mornings will be saved from internet in the morning.

5. After having the goals for tonight, tell everything to God. Everything – good or bad, meetings, aha moments, etc., during the day – give it to Him. Surrender all good as a gratitude to Him, surrender all that is not good, to him to handle. You will be mesmerized at how your life starts falling in place.

That’s it folks! I could write a ten more; however doing less makes chances of execution better.

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Hard work is too hard

Why don’t your efforts come to fruition when you try too hard, ever thought about it?

What happens when the result of your effort does not match what it should be?

Simple.

At a core level, we don’t believe that we deserve that success.

Why don’t we believe that? Because we are probably hanging around with:

• same people

• same habits

Which ones are holding you back?

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Working hard

If hard work could solve all the problems…

…you know it doesn’t.

Except when it does.

Hard work, without putting in the right thoughts process and strategy, won’t ever come to rescue.

Having a laser like focus and not working hard for it, won’t either.

The goal, then, is to use your power of discernment, and decide if you really ought to be working hard Bro.

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The problem

If you wanna know what’s your problem, just try spending some time with yourself in solitude. That’s the real game.

All your weaknesses will come to the surface.

All your problems will come out with a revelation: that the source of them is common.

And when the source of that is common, the solution has to one.

What is that one, has to be decided and implemented by the one reading this right now.

Implement. Execute.

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Anxiety

Anxiety is tricky.

The game is to make yourself never have anxiety.

The game is to play the game in the first place.

The game is to bring your best game.

The game of life is to be so busy that anxiety does not get to enter you.

The game is to be easy while being so busy that you know you are above all the situations life could offer you.

The game is to trick the game of anxiety, by being resilient when you don’t need it in the first place.